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HELP... MY WIFE IS WRITING TO HER DAUGHTER'S FATHER

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Submitted by dmra85 on Sat, 03/31/2012 - 2:48pm

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HI, MY WIFE OF ALMOST 2 YEARS IS WRITING TO HER DAUGHTERS FATHER, HE IS IN PRISON, HE STARTED BY WRITING HER DAUGHTER AND TELLING HER THAT HE MISSES HER MOMMY, AND TO ASK HER TO WRITE HIM A LETTER AND TO SEND HIM PICTURES.... AND HE ALSO WROTE MY WIFE A LETTER, THIS MADE ME FEEL VERY UNCOMFORTABLE AND I TALKED TO MY WIFE ABOUT IT. LAST NIGHT WE HAD DATE NIGHT WHICH WE HAVEN'T HAD IN A WHILE DUE TO OUR BUSY SCHEDULES AND WE STARTED TO TALK ABOUT HER DAUGHTER, AND HOW MUCH I LOVE HER AND I HAVE DONE FOR HER, AND HOW MUCH SHE LOVES ME. AND THEN SHE TELLS ME THAT SHE (DAUGHTER) WROTE A LETTER TO HER DAD WHICH I'M 100% PRO THAT, BUT SHE ALSO TOLD ME THAT SHE (WIFE) WROTE SOMETHING AND SENT PICTURES OF THE DAUGHTER AND ALSO HERS (WIFE), WHICH MADE VERY UNCOMFORTABLE AND I MENTIONED IN A VERY CALM WAY, SHE GOT PISSED-OFF ABOUT IT AND SAID THAT I SHOULDN'T WORRY BUT... I DON'T THINK FARE NOR RESPECTFUL TO ME OR OUR MARRIAGE TO BE WRITING LETTERS AND SENDING PICTURES TO OTHER MAN. THIS RUIN OUR "DATE NIGHT" AND TODAY I HAVEN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT IT WE HAVE PLANS FOR THE EST OF THE WEEKEND BUT NOW I DON'T FEEL LIKE DOING ANYTHING WITH HER... I JUST WANT TO BE ALONE... THIS REALLY SUCKS... ONCE AGAIN I DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM AT ALL ABOUT THE FATHER DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP... I'M ALL PRO THAT, AND I SEE, LOVE AND RESPECT THEIR DAUGHTER AS MY OWN... BUT THIS WRITING AND PICTURES THING BETWEEN MY WIFE AND HIM NOT AT ALL... I FEEL LIKE THIS MIGHT JUST KILL OUR RELATIONSHIP

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Submitted by MaGoose2010 on Sat, 03/31/2012 - 3:23pm

I get that she wants to keep up contact with the daughter & father but contact between her and the ex is not wise unless there are issues with the kid that she needs to discuss with him.

But you need to explain to her how this makes you feel.

Realistically she is now physically your wife, but you need to determine if she's with you emotionally.

Talk to her, that's all you can do. Don't punish her or the kid by not going away with them.

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Submitted by emotionaly beat up on Sat, 03/31/2012 - 11:05pm

I think if she wanted to send her ex pictures of herself that is something she should have discussed with her husbad BEFORE she did it, not something she brought up in conversation after the deed was done

This is completely disrespectful to her husband and her marriage. I agree with the other poster who said their are parents out there who use the excuse "I have a child with this man/woman" as just that an "EXCUSE" to keep contact with the ex.

I do not think this is just insecurity I think he feels betrayed and personally I don't blame him. What she did was plain wrong.

Father daughter relationship ok, mother ex relationship without speaking to husband first, never okay.

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Submitted by RayvenDanielle on Tue, 04/03/2012 - 9:34pm

I can't even imagine this, my husband would walk out on me and my ex would think id lost my dang mind lol