Hubs and I are in process of getting SD diagnosed with RAD...an attachment disorder in which children have no empathy, no desire to please their parents, they lie, steal, are violent, etc. I have researched, joined several support groups to get information (and they have been extremely helpful in finding therapists). He reads some of what I send him. Other than that, he does nothing.

I found a neuro psych in our area...we were going to start with him and get a referral to a different therapist with more experience. I asked hubs if he agreed to start with him and he said yes. So I told him he needed to call and make an appointment (I gave him the phone number). The neuro psych wasn't taking new patients so hubs asked me, "should we take her back to the counselor we didn't like or should we just wait and see if she gets better on her own?" OMG! She has steadily been getting worse since 3 and she is now 12. I sent him tons of links on RAD saying they will only get worse without treatment and can get to a point where it is hard to treat them. Has he read anything? Does he see my stress and concern? These are the types of kids that kill you in your sleep! I am not worried about that YET but if she continues down this path I will be soon. She pinches and hits the 3 yo and 1 yo...hello, we have a problem.

Hubs gave her $25 to put on her school lunch account. I saw $5 sitting on her bed. He would have thought nothing of it, but I realized she stole $5 of the $25 to keep for herself. After talking to her, it was obvious I was right. He wouldn't have figured that out. He doesn't "see" what I see (although he is getting a little better).

I am so frustrated! Perhaps he isn't as miserable because she is his kid. But he still deals with the lies and the detentions and the broken rules. Why can't he research, find a therapist, get educated and make the Fing appointment? Why isn't he worried about what she will do to our family (mentally, physically or emotionally) if this isn't addressed? I called the insurance, found out no therapist for this is in the network, I filled out the form to get one added, I found a therapist and called to interview him, I got their schedule and the fees so we can make an appointment. Yet he wonders if we should "wait and see if she improves on her own".

Does anyone else have to do all of this because their hub is too lazy and dumb to figure out what needs done for himself? This is HIS kid that is ruining our marriage. You would think he would take more initiative.