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Going from Residential Stepmother to Every Other Week Joint Custody Stepmother

ToddlerMealsTimes2's picture

And I Am NOT happy about it AT ALL!

I mean I WANT to be happy about. Less tweenage angst in my life. A house every other week with just MY family in it. Not having to cook and clean for a child who can't or won't mind (I'm not sure which). One less kid to run places 1/2 the time, etc.

BUT I really, really, really don't want BM moving back to my small town. I chose this town to live in a decade ago before DH was even on my radar as a boyfriend. I moved here and forged a life for myself and was thrilled when DH said that he would move the hour away from his home to live in my city. I've built my life here. There is only one grocery, one department store, a handful of fast food joints. We don't even have a WAL-MART!!! My parents are even relocating here from the next state over in the summer.

Now, BM who only lived here a year (5 years ago) is moving back from being long distance and practically into my back door. Worse yet, on paper, they still have 50/50 custody week on/week off, so that's what our family will have to return to. My DH knows at this late date he can't fight it because he knows it will look bad in court. Grr . . . NOT happy about this at all.

Jsmom's picture

Same situation. BM lives in the subdivision behind us. Pain in my ass. We have 50/50 custody of my skids. SD14 is a pain but, I love SS12. BM undermines us at every turn. Tells the kids to lie to their dad. Now we are going back to court because SD14 wants to live with BM dull time. Dad has too many rules. No dating until 16 and the like. I want her to go. DH wants her to as well, less drama. But, not until BM signs the papers regarding the SS12 and no financial support for SD ever again. Good luck. You will need it. Last week she dropped off the SD to get a t-shirt for school and sat in my driveway. I just stared from the kitchen window. Petty but felt good. She kept looking away. This woman is costing us a fortune in lawyers all because she wants to "keep the lines of communication open wit SD14". Bull.... She just wants to be her friend. She can have her I am done.

ToddlerMealsTimes2's picture

DSD's life will fall downhill once she returns to living with BM half the time. BM is in too big a hurry for her to grow up and allows her freedom to do things that are extremely inappropriate at her age.

*not my kid, not my problem. not my kid, not my problem* repeat ad naseum.

ToddlerMealsTimes2's picture

I like the 10 mile rule. Think DH could get a new CO with that in it? LOL

The worst part for us is BM is so *nice*. Okay, we'll it's fake nice, but still people eat it up hook, line & sinker. Fun times. I can't wait.