It's FDH's birthday today, I love him so much and I always try to make him feel special just as he does for me on special days. I made reservations weeks ago at a nice restaurant Downtown for tonight, taking him to a fancy hotel this weekend AND got lower level basketball game tickets for the 17th.

NO ONE and I repeat NO ONE does ANYTHING for him on his birthday, fathers day, christmas etc. EXCEPT FOR ME. Hasn't received ONE gift, a card NOTHING from his ungrateful ass kids, his parents, brother and sisters etc.

So about a week ago I was grocery shopping and I started feeling really bad that FDH is the one to call for everyone when they need something but the last one to get recognized for anything and I picked up some meat and thought I would do a little family birthday party with his mom, dad and sisters. I mentioned it to him but no one else.

New Years Day, His sister called bitchin us out about something she thought we said (we didn't it was between BD8 aand girl cousin 7, yes 2 little girls talking making up stuff to make eachother jealous or whatever) and I'm sick of their drama bullshit so I said you know what? I'm so sick of you're family and their drama bullshit I'm not having anyone over. I'm doing enough for your birthday, I'm not hosting your sickening family when all they want to do is start some drama over something that was never even said- I'm over it.

So.... Surprise , surprise SD15 calls FDH this morning and says so whats the plan tonight???? FDH says goincrazy is taking me out BUT we are having everyone over on Sunday.................WHAT???? And when I was THINKING of having his family over it wasn't until the following weekend bc we are at the hotel this weekend WTF

So bc his piece of shit kids can't plan or do anything for their dad, FDH basically sets me up to do something so his kids can celebrate his birthday????????

I'm so irritated. Let me remind you his SS is 25(not bio), SD21 and SD15 ALL old enough to do something on their own.

Question is........ Do I suck it up and do it for FDH???? Or tell him (repeat what I already said) I have done my part if Skids want a birthday party they can throw you one??? They are all broke and stupid so it would never happen AND I don't even want the stress and anxiety of having them over, I seen enough of them over the holidays. BUT I don't want to disappoint FDH and I'm feeling a little guilty I opened my big ass mouth and had a lapse of judgement and mentioned a family birthday and then took it back LOL

What should I do?? I'm leaning more towards Fuck it and let the skids not recognize him again bc I'm already spending enough and doing enough?????