Background: I raised SD (with DH but who are we kidding I raised her more or less alone) for 8 years. Due to many extreme issues including hurting my bios (also DH's) and telling lies that I was abusive to her and calling me obscenities, I said she would no longer be living with us and for the past year she has been living with my inlaws. I tried to get her professional help but since DH was never 100% on board, professional help did not help. Her BM wants nothing to do with her.

Well now SD13 is finally on birth control...the shot (yeah I also think it is whorish that a 13 year old needs it...but she does). The problem? DH has a new job and he wants me to arrange my work schedule to take her to get the next shot. I just started my new job 4 weeks ago, so I am not at the point where I want to ask to re-arrange my schedule...especially not for SD who won't even tell me good-bye after I tell her! Plus being alone in a car with her for two hours and in a waiting room...ummm NO! Not to mention not wanting anyone to think I am her mother, she dresses like a child prostitute and I am NOT ok with that. Plus that also puts us alone together so she could fabricate more abuse stories to tell everyone and potentially get CPS involved.

I told DH no, that I would not be doing "parenting things" for a child that has made it obvious she does not want me to be a parent and I will not be locked in a car with her for that long and I will not make it possible for her to fabricate lies about how I abused her on the way. So favor or no favor, it is not happening. I a bit ticked he even asked!

Ok, vent over