The Eval
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I ended up taking SS to his Asperger's evasl this week, DH "HAD" to do a dinner interview.
No surprise it was confirmed.
I actually feel a sense of relief; no I no longer have to pretend that I am dealing with a “normal” child.
The first recommendation was that he goes in to group therapy with other Asperger kids. The problem is, the therapist he goes to has group on Saturday morning. We go to our cabin every weekend…..I don’t want to give that up for the kid. I know it sounds horrible because I was the one that insisted he gets the eval, but I feel like I do more than I should.
As much as the road ahead is
As much as the road ahead is going to stink, it's so much better that it's confirmed now and no one can argue. Asperger's is so tough because it can sometimes be so subtle and the symptoms can be bullshitted and explained away, but it's a real thing and hopefully having that acknowledged professional and get him and you guys the help he needs. I know it's frustrating to miss out on things like the cabin, but think of it as a small loss for a bigger win down the road.
Having said that, it *should* be his father's responsibility but I understand feeling the pull when you know SS *needs* this help. IMO, DH should be the one taking him to group therapy. How long does SS need to be there for? Does DH need to stay? Is there any way you could go to the cabin by yourself and he and SS can meet you there later in the day?
You are probably going to
You are probably going to have to give up something. I know I now do. We have SS in a Group therapy thing on Friday evenings....it is too early to tell, but it seems like it helps him with some of his issues. DH works late so I have to take and big surprise it is every other week. Ours of course. I have a friend who both of her sons have Aspergers and she is so hands on with them. She has done everything. In two years time I have watched these kids change and grow so much...we do what we have to do.
I don't think you should do group every week. That is too much for the kid. See if there is one that does twice a month.
I have to find out this week
I have to find out this week from the therapist when ALL her groups are. SS started to lay down "his law" in the doctor's office...one being he will only go to group if there are kids his age there. I really don't think he is the one to call the shots here. In January, he is going to her "Life Skills" sessions, I know there will be kids there.
Right now, I'm a bit annmoyed because everything is dumped on my lap. DH and SS decides they are not going to tell BM....she is a Bipolar nutcase anyway.....BUT.....she is around during the weekends. It would be nice to get some help. I don't know how much more of my life I want to give up for this kid.....no one appreciates what I do now.....why should I do any more?