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Enjoy making BM mad! Should I feel bad?

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Submitted by wkd_sm on Tue, 09/13/2011 - 12:20pm

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I used to think it was bad to feel this way. Every time BM would "throw a tantrum", yell, say stupid things, leave nasty notes, play games with visitation, etc., it used to distress me.

Then it dawned on me that she was doing these things because she felt she was losing. Losing face, losing control, losing money, and she was. She just lost custody because she behaves this way.

Now whenever I see her, I can't help but smile. On one hand I feel like, "Good for her. See what you get when you act like a stupid b*&(%!" But on the other hand, I feel a little (just a little) guilty about it.

What do you guys/gals think? Btw, DH loves making BM mad too because of everything she's put us thru and doesn't lose sleep over it at all.

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Submitted by HadEnoughx5 on Tue, 09/13/2011 - 1:08pm

Thanks for writing this. It's a great perspective on seeing how she is losing control, etc. It's a great way to think because then you don't get sucked up into the BM vortex and take things personally. I have to admit I do like it when she becomes jealous over my relationship with her ex husband. }:) So the answer to your question is NO Biggrin

Don't take that the wrong way...they split up long before I showed up!

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Tue, 09/13/2011 - 2:20pm

Yep I enjoy it when I see that bubble butt is mad about something that I have or did or whatever. It is her own fault for the crap she has done. I have never went out of my way to do anything to her but when karma hits I am loving it.