This doesn't seem truthful to me...
I am not going to take the time to go into the background of the psycho who my DH chose to be the mother of his two kids. One kid is an adult with a child and never speaks to us. The other is a junior in high school. We have a No Contact order in the court order due to many instances of BM lying (even face to face to the judge) and harassing us (mainly DH). She is the normal psycho ex that so many people vent about on this site.
The last time DH contacted BM via text was when he found out that his visitation wasn't going to occur a few months ago. He texted BM about it and her text back was, "That is between you and X (his son)." Excuse me?!?
Anyway, she texted him last night (breaking the court order to do so) and asked where *I* work because one of the medical places needed to know that to run the insurance. (Insurance is through my work)
Does this sound like anything anyone has had to do in the past? It SOUNDS reasonable enough. But this woman lies just to hear herself talk and I wouldn't put it past her to try something sneaky and underhanded like she has for the past 12 years. I think she either just wants to know where my new job is OR she is jealous of the new ring I got for Xmas (posted on FB) and decided that it's been long enough since she's been a thorn in our side.
Just when you think you've made it through the "step-war". Has anyone else run into a medical provider that needed to know where the person holding the insurance WORKED?? Thank you.
The best thing to do with
The best thing to do with psycho BMs is always to be cautious and paranoid about their intentions. If it were me being asked, I would tell her to tell the representative of this so-called medical place to get in touch with me directly if they want my info. NO way am I sending that crazy bitch any personal info! IMHO
P.S. I'm curious about the NO CONTACT Order that you have. Was it tough to get? I would like some of that for some peace in my household.
When I first met DH, he
When I first met DH, he didn't have any visitation set up by the court...all at a crazy b!tch's whim. She left the state with his kids for a month without telling him they were going anywhere or that they wouldn't be available for pick up.
That was the last straw and he finally took her to court. The No Contact order was one that he requested be put into the order. The lawyer negotiated before going into to have the judge sign it. Humorously enough, the No Contact order was the one thing that sent her over the edge the most. OHHHH was she MAD about THAT!! DH had to actually cut his summer visitation time from 3 weeks to 2 before she would agree to everything. When we went before the judge, the judge said that everything DH was asking for was very reasonable and he was asking for LESS than what the judge would have given, if it were the judge's choice.
The judge gave BM quite a severe tongue lashing about separating her parenting duties from her own feelings regarding her baby-daddy. Which, of course, went in one ear and out the other with that narcissistic vindictive hose-bag.
Wow that's amazing!! I can
Wow that's amazing!! I can only dream LOL. Hopefully my DH will eventually realize how silly it is to be played like a puppet after 9 years of being divorced from her. I, on the other hand, am doing my own thing for 2012. If he wants to listen to her crap, he can go ahead. I am doing what I want to do and deciding for myself. Anyone not paying bills in my household can go to hell! }:)
It is on the forms at the Dr.
It is on the forms at the Dr. Office. But, she can leave it blank. Trust me they will find it out when they process the bill. But, she doesn't need it.
dooont' tell her, don't tell
dooont' tell her, don't tell her, don't tell her.
I have a lil story for you...
around 10 years ago, my best friend started dating a guy that was recently divorced. his exW was also psycho and became very jealous of his new gf. she found out where my friend worked (a hospital) and actually called HR of the hospital and left a message claiming to be a friend, telling HR how they made a huge mistake in hiring my friend, that she hates being a nurse and is only in nursing for the money, that she is not a people person, that she hates her job/career and working with people, etc. HR forwarded that message to her manager. Her manager called her into the office and asked her if everything was OK in her personal life and then told her about the message from someone who sounded very "disgruntled" and played the first minute of the VM to my friend. My friend began bawling after she heard her voice and told her manager who is was. Her manager told her that she needs to get out of that relationship and out the that house (she just moved in with him) and the manager offered her help by saying she could send her 3 really big brothers over to help her move.
this story may be extreme, but you just never know if something like this will happen to you!!
UPDATE: I called the
UPDATE: I called the provider. BM had *magically* figured out where I worked overnight and called them already with the info this morning.
I did not outright call her psycho to the provider but I made it VERY clear that:
1. She was NOT supposed to contact us
2. I found it odd that they needed to know my employer when no other providers did
3. We do not feel comfortable giving that kind of personal information to BM
and
4. That BM is the Custodial Parent and they are to bill her with any remaining amount due.
I'm pretty easy-going but I do think I would strangle her if I could get away with it. }:)