Does anyone here honestly think that your SK's are as cute as your Bio's
This is playing off my post from yesterday slightly, boy did DH piss me off before leaving for work tonight! He doesn't get to see SD much at all bc of the RO BM put on him that's expiring next yr. Basically his parents see her from time to time thanks to BM's mother, who randomly shows up without warning with SD at their door. She was just there Monday and Tuesday of this week, and anytime she does come by it stirs everyone up and everyone ends up pissy and complaining about the whole mess.
So here's the snotty comment DH came off with today. I'm getting our son dressed (he's 3mths) and as I am doing so I am asking him "whose the cutest baby", etc, etc, like we both always do. Well DH is in the next room and calls over "What about SD? Isn't she just as cute?" I responded "umm to me no, she isn't my child, my son is". So DH gets on his soapbox and tells me that that is 'messed up'. This coming from the guy who doesn't do a whole lot of anything to exert his rights to SD, but then he has the nerve to say crap like this to me and try to make me feel guilty???
His mom and dad guilt trip him too, and they blatantly favor SD over our son, and when DH starts making snide comments like that to me, it just makes me feel like my poor lil guy is just second best to his whole side of the family, even tho DH obviously spends loads more time with him. Just feeling beyond frustrated this week.
Honestly, my oldest SS is an
Honestly, my oldest SS is an abomination. Most everyone that has ever seen him (outside of his parents of course) find him incredibly hideous and say just that, not to him. My DH likes to say that our son looks like he did as a baby...I think because he know that this can elicite reactions as strong as crying from me.
However, I must say youngest SS is a very attractive boy and he was always an adorable baby.
Obviously, I don't look at him with that undying love a mom looks at her child with, that just makes everything adorable but I will acknowledge that it is possible that as they grown younger SS someday may, just MAY be as attractive or more (in some peoples eyes) than my DS.
BUT I must say DH knows that the answer to who's the cutest baby in the world is always OUR SON.
Yes normally DH is right next
Yes normally DH is right next to me saying DS is the cutest baby ever, as he puts it, it's just every once and awhile he comes off with that stupid "what about SD" comment that makes me want to punch him. I didn't say she wasn't cute (altho she looks more like her skanktastic mother everyday....), so stop trying to start something, grr.
I think every parent thinks
I think every parent thinks thier own is the cutest. So your DH has a right to think his DD is cute too...BUT, BUT, BUT...all he was doing was trying to get you in a fight. Did he really think you would say that his DD is cuter than your DD? No, he didn't. He just wanted a fight. What a turd.
I really don't think we are
I really don't think we are programmed to see our skids as cute as our own. They are a sort of direct competition to our kids in this world, even if we don't consciously think so. I would be rare to think that your DH and another woman made a better gene combo than you and your Dh did.
But, it's one of those things that would be best not spoken, unless one really has to. Maybe your DH felt that you were kind of rubbing it in just then?
you always think YOUR kids
you always think YOUR kids are the cutest; so why even ask? LOL - SD is pretty; thats what gets her into trouble! A lot of trouble.....I almost wish she was ugly....LOL
Honestly, I think SS is
Honestly, I think SS is adorable. BUT, I have had him since he was 1... he acts just like DH and I love him to pieces. SS, and my 2 BD's are the cutest kids alive
You know what really detracts
You know what really detracts from children? Especially my SD5...
Her horrible attitude and the fact that she acts like a complete monster 24/7... No self control, no responsibility for her own actions, no remorse, no sympathy, no manners, no respect, no ideation of what personal space is or means to people, scratching her ass inside her pants in public.. crap like that.. She's disgusting, and up until meeting me apparently her Mother could care less, and the BF is just a negligent boob.
If she's awake.. Life is a battle for control, and being the Step dude.... I can't actually put my foot down, it drives me NUTS!
I can guarantee that if I actually decide to go through with raising a child in this country that the SD5 is going to take a very hasteful trip to the back seat. I also refuse to let my DW ruin my child as she did hers.. Being a weak willed mother, and being too motherly for too long only results in terrible habits, bad behaviors and serious emotional issues as far as I can tell..
Oral affixiations from breast feeding for too long, sleeping in bed with Mom and Dad for too long gets you detachment anxiety issues, giving in to whinning and crying will only get you pissy fits over the simplest of things all of the time, not enough discipline will simply get you a valueless, self appointed child that absolutely can't stand not getting his or her way every waking second of their life...
My SS and BS16 are both
My SS and BS16 are both really good looking. But, my SD15 was drop dead gorgeous. I say was because now she bleached her beautiful brunette hair and has piercings all courtesy of BM and her permissive parenting.
Every mom thinks their kid is the best looking. Part of the connection. Here your husband was trying to pick a fight. Also, you can feel the guilt he has about his SD. It is what it is. Just ignore the baiting...
I think that SK's look like
I think that SK's look like their mother so no I think they are ugly. I'm sorry but square faces and super high fake looking eyebrows are ugle. The noses are big flat and smushy. Just on a surface level, not attractive no not in my opionion. Attitude well SS I dispise and SD I can at least stand being in the same room. But I HATE it when others say they are mine. No they are NOT mine they look nothing like me and only SD looks a bit like my DH. I don't even think that SS is DH's
I think my kids are by far
I think my kids are by far better looking LOL But all of the skids are really beautiful girls.
Even my DH says that our
Even my DH says that our daughter is cuter then SS ever was, he would never say it in front of SS but he does say it to me. He does what the poster says, holds her up while dressing her and kisses her cheeks and tells her she is the cutest, best baby ever.
Your DH is feeling guilty because he is seeing your baby every day and his other child he is never seeing. He shouldn't pick fights with you and he does need to enjoy the child he does have but sometimes I think your going to need to be the bigger person and let some of it go, don't pick up the bait and let him find somewhere else to let out his anger.
Skids as cute as my bio-kids?
Skids as cute as my bio-kids? Sorry, no. SS15 takes after SO, so of course I think he's pretty cute (if you can call a teenager that without sounding gross). SD7 is technically cute, I guess, with her blond hair and blue eyes...but I never hear anyone remark about it like random people used to about my kids. Her tangled hair, dirty face, ill-fitting mis-matched clothes, general grubbiness, and awkward social behavior probably eclipse any cuteness she might have. Even if someone cleaned her up, she's still got BM's personality (need I say more?).
Well, I don't have my own yet
Well, I don't have my own yet (shooting for next year maybe).
SS5 is an extremely attractive little guy. I think his only drawback would be that he has an almost vampire-esque sort of look. I'm not sure if it's the blond hair with brown eyes, or his tendency to have dark circles around his eyes (due, in all likelihood, to his horrific diet at BM's house). He also can be extremely mopey, so his expressions alot of the time are not as winning as they could be. From a purely aesthetic sense, he's usually the cutest kid in his class.
SS2 is potentially the cutest kid on earth. I have known this since he was born, and continued to see it even when he was in his raging stage, which consisted of crying and screaming about 70% of the time. He's a bit underweight, so he lost the chubby look very fast, which somehow made his eyes look GINORMOUS. His eyes are also a very unusual teal color, and people at the store are constantly commenting on how adorable he is and how beautiful his eyes are.
It's a bummer because SS5 has become the "plain" one even though he's a really cute kid and was formerly sort of reknowned for his amazing looks.
I can't imagine DH and I will have kids that are actually as cute as the SSs. I'll be totally stunned if we do. I'm actually sort of bracing myself for the "oh, why doesn't s/he look more like the others" speeches.
My SD16 is drop dead gorgeous
My SD16 is drop dead gorgeous and totally sweet. An exceptionally good kid. SS12 is really good looking too. I don't have a problem admitting that. They take after DH's family who is hungarian so they have really full lips, blue eyes and dark hair. They do get their mom's nose which works well with the rest of the face. If they had ugly manners or attitudes I could see it being hard to admit they have good looks.