document. then what else is there to do...?
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My husbands ex informed him by voicemail last night that she is keeping the kids overnight because that is her "prerogative"
This was not even her time. He offered it to make up for the funeral Monday and her missing time with the kids to celebrate the oldest girls birthday.
She just said it. As an order.
We have it on voicemail through and a great recording device so we will use it as evidence in court of her changing things last minute.
Meanwhile the kids are caught in the middle. They didn't even want to go out for supper last night. And their mom just tells them they are spending the night?
I feel so sorry for them.
Yep just document and record
Yep just document and record it. We have an ongoing document (saved in google docs for ease) and we take it to court when we have enough. Last time when Bm lost some visitation rights our attorney just started reading off the document asking her questions about it- the judge eventually said she had heard enough and made her judgement. So that is what we do, until next time...
Yes, document. But depending
Yes, document. But depending on the age of the kids, you may want to talk to them about the situation in a way that is age-appropriate since they are caught in the middle. You definitely DO NOT want to speak ill of their mother, but they should understand that you want to see them as much as possible and that, except in case of emergency or things outside of your control, you would never give up your precious time with them. Reassure them that you will continue to work hard to see them during your scheduled visits. Again, depending on their age, you may share differently, more or less. But focus on your relationship with them, and not allowing them to think that it is you that doesn't want to see them. If they miss you guys while they have to stay with their bm, you can also help them brainstorm some things the both of you can do to stay connected(e.g. email, skype, call, etc.). This way, they know that they may not be with you, but that you are never too far from them.
Hope the comments help.