Those of you who
read my recent blog know what has been happening this Christmas. But there is something I would like to ask you. BM tried to manipulate MY husband by threatening to take the kids away if I didn't quit with the drama. I don't want her to have the last say. I want to throw it in her face that if she EVER tries that again I will persue turning her in for fraud on a government document. Which would make her pay back all payments made and possibly jail time. Also DH could go back on some tax returns and claim SS and make her back pay. Now, should I confront her with this or just leave it alone? I want her to know that her threat was not taken lightly. Help!
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She wans to throw stones like that......u need to remind her of the glass house she's livin in!!! I would do it in a heart beat. Chel
You could.....
turn her in to the IRS on an anonymous tip for claiming children that she should not have been and then let the chips fall where they may. Go to irs.gov for the 800#!
Other than that, you could have a few choice words with her the next time she calls your house but I wouldn't email her again, especially since your DH's undies got all in a bunch over the last few you sent to the BB.
My guess is that your DH's ex no more wants full custody of the kids than any of us wants to gain 20 pounds overnight. If she really did want them, she would've filed for them already. I put up with that kind of crap from DH's son and his EW all of the time and it's nothing more than plain old threats. Don't let the bastards get you down!
Good luck with whatever you choose to do!
Depends on what you really want.
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life fighting this woman or do you want her to dry up and blow away? Because if you want to be rid of her, then for God's sake stop responding to her. Who really cares who has the last say? This isn't the sandbox, this is your LIFE. In the grand scheme of things, what do you really want? Do you want her to admit that you are right and she is wrong or do you want to live a peaceful, happy life? She will never admit anything of the sort, so by participating in this constant battling with her, you are denying yourself the peaceful, happy life that you want. STOP FIGHTING WITH HER! Don't even acknowledge her existence. If you and DH think it's best to turn her in on all these things, then just do it. Don't threaten it. What's the point of that? Beating her into submission? Won't happen. She'll just fire back another salvo on her end and this war will never end. Get out of it. Refuse to deal with the BM on any level. It's DH's job, not yours. Insulate yourself against her attacks and refuse to rise to her bait. Never give her the satisfaction of your response, because when you do, you give her exactly what she wants.
~ Anne ~
"Adjust on the fly, or you're going to cry."
Steve Doocy, The Mr. and Mrs. Happy Handbook
I agree too...
who needs the drama? Ignorance is bliss - tell your husband to quit telling you the stupid crap that she says about you. You'll never be able to do anything about it anyways....not without consequence.
BMs favorite threat is taking the girls away. It's an empty threat, she just knows that the only thing she can ever hurt him with ever is those little girls. She only threatens it when she's pissed and DH has proven time and time again that he will do everything in his power to never let that happen. So, that threat is becoming less and less. Your BM is the same, she just has no other ammo.
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
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I'll just let this one go this time. It seems I just get riled up by her and make myself miserable. It doesn't make much difference if you feel like DH doen't have your back anway.
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