And then feel ticked you can't do what you want? For example, I want to make one of those signs with all of the family's important dates. You know, DH's birth date, my birth date, wedding date and kids' birth dates. If I put SD's birth date on our sign, it will look like I was sexually active at 14 and I don't consider her a part of the family like that anymore, so I wouldn't want her on it. If I don't put her on it, she and my inlaws will see she was left out (possibly hurting SD and making inlaws think less of me). So I guess I just won't make the sign or will leave it in my bedroom. I raised SD for most of her life (she now lives with inlaws because she became "too horrible"), so most see her a bit like my daughter. So if I "leave her out" it seems to look even worse than if she was a
"typical" SD.

UGH! Sometimes I get ticked I even have to think about this stuff. Why can't I just do what I want for MY family and not worry about someone else's kid!?