So, I previously posted how DH wont allow me to successfully disengage. Things have gotten blown way out of proportion. I also mentioned how he had SD last weekend and threw me under the bus and childishly mocked me in front of her. I poured my heart out to him about this and he laughed at me!!! Said he was just joking around and I have no reason to be upset. Then turns my words around that I expect him to not have a relationship w/ his daughters. Which I explained in full detail to him that is NOT what I expect from him, I just expect him to support me in my decision to not have a relationship of my own w/ his daughters. He fails to hold his 10yo responsible for her actions (dirty looks, rudeness) b/c she pours on the sugar to him and tells him what he wants to hear..... that she likes me blah blah blah. He only wants to call me out on my "dirty looks", however, I don't even look at the child. Tells me that by my ignoring her doesn't help a thing, and only makes things around here as uncomfortable as possible. And now he's on this "she's scared of you kick". But as I pointed out to him, if she's so "scared", why did she attempt to give me a hug when she left?
Now in my frustrations, I threw out the fact that I cant take this and moving out. But, before that I asked him what he thinks needs to be done to fix this and his answer: " I really don't know how to answer that" I tell him we need a plan to make this work out, but there has not been one suggestion or idea presented from him. He just over and over tells me that I cannot expect him to not have a relationship w/ his girls, no matter how many times I correct him!!! And always brings my bio daughters up "what if I expected you to not have anything to do w/ your girls". Just keeps on pointing the finger at me and my faults, wont talk to me, only in emails b/c he says he doesn't have to deal w/ my attitude that way....I love him, but am at the end of my rope. I don't want to leave, but I feel if he and I cant agree on this kid issue, it will always be a wedge between us.
Also, I moved across country to be with him, not financially set to just pack up and go back. Will barely get by on my own, and wont be able to save up to move back home, so therefore I'm stranded out here w/ no family or friends. But I've said all I could say, explained my side over and over to him and am out of things to say. We pass each other like strangers in the house and are sleeping in separate rooms. Maybe I'm just expecting too much from a man to actually fix our relationship. I refuse to apologize to him.