My SO has allowed the children to formulate their own opinions of me. He has not forced a relationship...He has not tried to make them feel a particular way - just let the relationship build naturally.
It is your SO's position to act as your partner and support your decisions, the way you discipline and to make the children respect your things. It is also his job to make the children feel very welcome and still loved when you come into the picture on a full time basis.
It can be challenging and difficult for the DH to juggle both, however, stay strong and if the relationship between you and DH is solid, the children will naturally build that same thing with you.
I agree. My niece22's SF turned a hose on her when she was 16 as a form of discipline, and her BM allowed it because she was too wimpy to discipline her own daughter and wanted someone else to take the rap. Call that discipline? He traumatised my niece and the BM does not realise it to this day. The BM only allowed it cos she was blinded by dependency on the SF. Yes the SP should set boundaries as host, but not as parent.
Don't get married and keep the girlfriend out of his kids lives.
There are no unwounded children in a divorce and adding a 'new mom' just hardens the concrete. Ask 90% of the solution seekers here if they wish they'd had this advise first.
You want what's best for the children instead of your libido you have a tryst on the weekends they're not around and maintain seperate households the rest of the time.
My SO has allowed the
My SO has allowed the children to formulate their own opinions of me. He has not forced a relationship...He has not tried to make them feel a particular way - just let the relationship build naturally.
It is your SO's position to act as your partner and support your decisions, the way you discipline and to make the children respect your things. It is also his job to make the children feel very welcome and still loved when you come into the picture on a full time basis.
It can be challenging and difficult for the DH to juggle both, however, stay strong and if the relationship between you and DH is solid, the children will naturally build that same thing with you.
I agree. My niece22's SF
I agree. My niece22's SF turned a hose on her when she was 16 as a form of discipline, and her BM allowed it because she was too wimpy to discipline her own daughter and wanted someone else to take the rap. Call that discipline? He traumatised my niece and the BM does not realise it to this day. The BM only allowed it cos she was blinded by dependency on the SF. Yes the SP should set boundaries as host, but not as parent.
I mean I agree with HNYRC.
I mean I agree with HNYRC.
If you intend to leave him an
If you intend to leave him an equal amount as you leave to your bios in your will, amen to that. If not, not.
Don't get married and keep
Don't get married and keep the girlfriend out of his kids lives.
There are no unwounded children in a divorce and adding a 'new mom' just hardens the concrete. Ask 90% of the solution seekers here if they wish they'd had this advise first.
You want what's best for the children instead of your libido you have a tryst on the weekends they're not around and maintain seperate households the rest of the time.