DH is PISSED off at me....
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DH is not home tonight, he needs "space" and may want a divorce.... I screwed up.... I lied to DH (blatantly).
We have both been so stressed with all of the BS going on with BM.... it is consuming our lives and he pushes me away when we need one another the most.... and I lied to him. I want to tell you all what it was about, but as you know 'Jennifer' lurks around here and I don't want to deal with her too. Anyway, I'm upset, hes upset and I don't know whats going to happen. I really don't want to be 27 years old twice divorced with 2 kids from 2 different dads.
I did find out today that we have been assigned a CASA for our case. I hope we get someone with common sense.... this whole thing is just getting to be too much for me to handle.
THE LIE....
Its not cheating or anything.... it does have to do with his psycho ex
If I divorced my husband
If I divorced my husband every time he ever lied to me, I'd have to move into the courthouse.
He'll calm down, eventually, and be ready to hear what you have to say. You'll apologize for your mistake, explain that it's a crazy situation and you had a lapse in judgment. No one is perfect. We all screw up. We have to be willing to forgive each other for our human foibles, because that's what people who love each other do. Trust isn't the only component in the marital foundation. You must also have forgiveness.
~ Anne ~
"Love, having no geography, knows no boundaries."
(Truman Capote)
Fearless, I can't remember
Fearless, I can't remember if I told you or not, but it looks like we aren't heading down your way ... Erik wants to go camping ... which, other than not getting to meet you, is a good thing because Erik's mom drives me crazy!
~ Katrina
All my favorite ladies
All my favorite ladies (well, there are a few missing) are here ... Fearless, I don't think choco wants to tell us exactly what she did ... you aren't missing anything! =0)
Choco ... will you call me, please!!! I'm not sure when you check this, so I'll probably call you after I drop Jacob off at school in the morning! We need to re-schedule our lunch date anyway.
But ... give DH some space ... maybe write him a letter explaining why you did what you did. It's hard to give you advice about it without knowing what the lie was, but ...
On the other hand too ... you need to take care of you and your kids ... make sure YOU are all taken care of ... you can't take care of your marriage if you aren't taken care of!!!
Let's get together SOON!!!
~ Katrina
Have to agree with Anne
My hubby seems to lie about a lot of things. Then when he gets caught he gets this really dumb look on his face, something like, how the hell did she find that one out, she must be psychic. We are all human and sometimes we have lie so we don't have to face the consequences of the truth. I too have lied when it came to the ex, I think its a protective thing because I am so sick of her crap.
Corie
I would not worry to much
A divorce over him being mad will cost a lot of money.. So you made a mistake, did you learn anything from it? If you did then that was a lesson learned! WE all make mistakes, all the time, its called being human.. Has he ever made a mistake? I am pretty sure he has, did you forgive him? Pretty sure you did right? SO it will be ok. Marriage is work, and is full of ups and downs which is what you both baiscally stated that thru the good and THE BAD we will work this out. Its gonna be ok.. Maybe just need to learn to communicate a little better.. (Yep and happy should take her own advice) lol.. We are here for ya girl..
Happy
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