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DH, BM and BM's flavor of the month hanging out?

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I fluctuate between angry and indifferent about this.

A few days ago, DH had to meet BM at lawyer's office regarding SD. BM's boyfriend was also there as was SD12 and BM's (new) daughter.

SD is involved in a new activity which initially made her anxious, but once she tried it, turns out she's good at it. DH was taking her for this activity once all the lawyer stuff was finished.

Somewhow, it turned into an outing where they ALL went and BM and her BF watched SD12 at her activity. Of course this made SD12 giddy with excitement and made DH happy because his kid was happy.

I'm upset, I think because BM is poisoning this kid against liking me, but BM's BF is glorified. So they all have this great little Disney outing and I was at home. Don't get me wrong- I wouldn't have gone anyway.

I hate BM and I refuse to be near her, and it's not my kid, so I don't want to hear "it's good for the sake of the child." BM is nuts and normally, DH has serious boundaries regarding her. She doesn't even know where we physically live- bc she is unstable.

I have a feeling when DH told me, he thought I may be angry, but I took it in stride and just nodded my head. From his perspective it made his daughter happy. It wasn't just BM and DH... her bf was with them... He knows it didn't make me happy though...

Why am I upset?