The day after - - retrospect
Ok...sitting here with my coffee, watching it snow (yeah!), and thinking about yesterday. All in all, not a horrible day.
Went to DH's sister's house for lunch/gift opening. Everyone gets together and cooks and eats and has fun. This is my first year of disengagement from DH's adult kids (SD24 and SS26). I paid attention to "things" over there this year. I noticed that none of the cousins, who are all pretty close to the same ages as his kids, pay any attention at all to DH's kids. They don't speak to them or anything. And, the cousins are all well educated, polite, well-behaved kids. The kind of young adults that give you hope for the world, you know? I also noticed that the in-laws (those of us who are married into the family, not biologically related) don't speak to DH's kids, either. Interesting. I really really paid attention to this, and it's not just in my head. DH and his adult kids sat over in the corner, by themselves, the entire time. Interesting.....
I did not speak to SD24, her baby daddy, or her kids. She got the hint, too, because she actually made the effort to speak to me, but I blew her off completely. Bwahahahahaha! SS26 was his usual bi-polar self. Oh well.....
So....it's not just ME who sees the disfunction here.
Ya, I'm still sort of numb
Ya, I'm still sort of numb from the verbal abuse by my SD36 and her husband two days before Christmas - and how my husband ran out the door, leaving me alone to defend myself. All I asked was for them to speak up instead of having low toned conversations so we can not hear. This was happening constantly - in the car, while watching TV with us, all the time. It wound up being all my fault because I was "making them uncomfortable". They couldn't really say what I was doing to make them uncomfortable. My husband said he will be talking to them when everything cools down but in the past this means nothing will happen. The 'games' have been going on for over 20 years. Now I am at the point of wondering if I want to be married to a man who has so little regard and value for me. Going to make an appointment with a therapist to find out why I am still living with him. C.