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Submitted by Totheend12345 on Mon, 01/15/2018 - 4:03pm

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CS, I am so tired of the text did you send child support? SD needs this and this and this. CS just is not enough any more...

While CS is being sent on time every month, and the full amount BM is always saying how she has no money. SD needs new shoes, new clothes, blah blah blah.

DH does buy SD clothes when she comes over, he also used to stop by the grocery and send food home with her. (this stopped when SD told us she never has them because BM and all her friends eat it all while she is in school) We do what SD needs outside of child support when she is at our house.

DH has also paid for her school lunch all year, and sends her home with a little cash here and there for fun stuff (movies with friends and what not. BM normally takes it for things they "need" ya know beer.)

There are 5 people living in the house hold. BM, her husband, their baby together, SD, and BM friend. (We think BM friend has her BF living there to but can't prove it.) So that is four other people besides SD living in this house. BM always says child support just doesn't cover half the bills, that she needs more they are struggling. That CS is to maintain half of SD needs which would be half of all bills of the house.

I know CS is based on income, but it is suppose to also be based on both parents supporting SD equally correct?

BM keeps saying she will just have to take us back to court. Would it matter that BM is feeding and paying for four other people besides SD to live there. DH income has not changed. BM's income went down when she quit her job to be a bartender part time. (she used to make 20+$ an hour at her old job).

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 01/15/2018 - 4:47pm

First and immediately DH needs to stop submitting CS directly to BM and get it set up to deliver to the CSE office who will forward it to BM. That takes DH out of the money discussion business with BM. Second DH needs to pay CS and only CS which represents his contribution to the support of his daughter when she is not with him/you. If there are additional stipulated contributions by DH in the Custody/Visitation/Support order then DH of course needs to pay those but not one penny more or less than is specifically addressed in the CO. DH should support his child but not be BM's beck and call boy or ATM.

IMHO of course.

Good luck.