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Court Soon...........frustrated

kimm1960's picture

The EX is taking DH back into court next month. She wants more money, sole custody, visitation changed etc. Her reason for wanting sole custody and she actually put this in the court papers is that we supposedly talk bad about her and her parents in front of SS-7. I swear on my grandchildren's lives we have not said anything bad about her or her parents ever and actually the truth is SHE is the one who does that. She constantly maligns my husband to SS-7. Anyway, what has me in a rage today is that her lawyer just sent a bunch of medical bills to our lawyer and says she will be presenting them in court because we have not paid them. This is the first time we have seen them. EX quit presenting medical bills to us in the fall of 2007 when we discovered she was not turning some bills into our insurance because she didn't want us to know she was taking him to these doctors. She takes SS-7 to a chiropractor for his allergies and ear infections. She knew we disagreed with this we felt his pediatrician was a better option. Our insurance does pay for this treatment though....100% after the co-pay. When we pointed this out to her in 09/07 and that because she had not submitted it we had over paid her by almost $80.00 she totally quit submitting any medical bills. We asked her and asked her about them and she would never respond. Those that were sent to us (such as the hospital bill which the hospital sent to us and not her) we have paid. Oh and she threw a fit about the hospital sending us the bill because she told them she was exclusively responsible for it and it was to be sent to her. Now she has a couple of thousand dollars in medical bills from 09/07 to now that she is presenting in court, including countless visits to the chiropractor that were never submitted to the insurance company. I just want to kill her. She has held onto some of these bills for two years. This is so unfair and I believe she did it to cause an undue burden on us. Between the meedical bills and the lawyer bill the amount is just unreal. And what really gets me is that she filed her original petitions in June of 2008. The case has drug on this long and just now, less then a month before we go to court she suddenly remembers she has all these medical bills we didn't pay. Our JPA says she has 14 days to present them. Has anyone else every ran into this?

imagr8tma's picture

Yes, Me and DH have. BM got very upset DH and I got married. 1 month before our wedding I sold my house and DH and I bought one for "us" my daughter and his daughter.

BM took DH to court for more money. She claimed she needed 1150 a month when she was getting 800. Judge denied it. She then took him back 1 month after our wedding stating she had 950 in uncovered medical expenses - could not prove it to the judge - and it was denied.
She then enrolled SD in private school and took him back to court again for 800 plus 1/2 of private school plus 1/2 of med insurance plus 1/2 of dance. It was all denied. As DH lives in another state and works for the govt. They do no provide dual state coverage.

I would petition the judge to have you guys pay for the medical expenses over time - if they are found to have to be paid. She should not be allowed to hold onto the bills for 2 - 3 years and expect payment in 30 - 60 days. That is crazy!

********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************

Orange County Ca's picture

OK her claim is going to be that she sent copies of the bills to you and you ignored them. You're response is of course that you didn't receive them. Furthermore that since you have full insurance coverage why would you not submit them for payment especially since you knew you would be in violation of a court order.?

The lesson for others is when you know there are bills outstanding that you will be responsible for send a certified letter to the ex telling them that you've not recieved any bills and will not be responsible for any bills not received after 30 days. The 30 part is probably not defendable but it'll scare her.

As for the bad mouthing it'll take a lot more than her say-so. Same with the sole custody. The judges are used to this sort of baloney and won't change anything without proof.

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