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I have a question, What can happen when a child does NOT wear the proper clothing in Ten Degree weather? BM will not dress SD in the jacket she begged us for. I'm afraid SD will be really sick and she will end up in the hospital, because she is irresponsable. That and I found out today, that she signed her child support check to her 2nd ex husband. What can we do about that? She is driving me crazy, because she thinks she can get away with all of this. I did call Child Services about the jacket, and they won't do anything. I thought I was going to explode.
I can see...
I can totally see your points of aggravation. I would feel the same about the Jacket and the Child Suport money. Who has custody? It takes many attempts to prove a mother unfit and I know a jacket just wont cut it. You may need to seek additional custody time where you would have the child more than she so you can make sure full time that the child is taken care of. Have you tried to talk to the BM about the issues or is that a dead end road? What does the BF say?
Unfortunatley, not much
you can do about this. I have really lived this. We sent cs every month, and bm refused to put a jacket on ss when he came to us, regardless of the outdoor temps. She angrily told my dh "buy him a jacket..". Yeah, like that is smart...buy him a jacket, when a.) he already has a jacket and b.) you won't put the jacket on him to wear to our house just to be vindictive and c.) you probably just donate the jacket to goodwill just out of anger.
In the summer time, everytime my dh got his son, he got him barefoot. So he would buy cheap flip flops, send him home wearing them, and the very next time, he got him barefoot. He never got him wearing any shoes, not any change of clothes.
I guess it's too much for these women to slow down their lives to actually spend some time preparing their children for the outdoor elements. She never missed the bars...
Oh I know how that is...
We pay CS to biomom twice a month and its actually more that what she is entitled to because it includes child care for 2 children, but one is now old enough to come home alone. However, step kids come over with clothes that are old and don't fit. Last month SD had on a shit that was so small it exposed her navel and she told us that her mother didn't have the money to buy her new clothes. It really makes you wonder where all that money is going and its such a shame that there is no accountability. Candice, maybe you should just keep the things that you buy for SS at your house and send him home as he arrived. This way you at least won't be wasting your money and he will be sure to have a jacket and shoes when he is with you.
Yeah we did that
When it got to be absolutely ridiculous we just kept a wardrobe over here. BM would actually tell ss that he had to wear "crap" clothes over to our house, and then when we took family photos, ss wanted to take a single shot of just him home to his mom, which she verbally criticized his clothes in the picture just to contaiminate his feelings about the picture...
Now that ss is 13, we buy clothes for here, and if they end up at his mothers' he hold him accountable for bringing them back since now he is old enough.
Ex not cashing cs checks
Does anyone have any experience/input about an ex NOT cashing the child support checks that I have written and personally given to her? I don't know if she's saving them up for some sinister reason, or to make a big hit on my account all at once for some reason, but she's currently holding three uncashed cs checks. Can she try and make a claim that I haven't been paying and in the event of an investigation I won't have any canceled checks??? Help?