BM's work schedule change...does it affect the skids schedule?
Without giving too much personal information (just in case), I have a quick question. Here's the background. BM and DH divorced a while ago, and up until June, I would say it's been a pretty rocky road to say the least. DH insists on sticking to the court order, and it drives BM crazy. She does not like a schedule (of any kind) which is something that is spelled out specifically in the CO.
BM informed DH her work schedule "could" be changing. She does this normally to test the waters. If/when her schedule changes, and it's her time, he would exercise FROR, as it would be almost double what the FROR time is. The concern is, if she is having to "give up" time due to her work schedule change, can she then demand/be given extra time when ever it suits her new schedule?
I'm concerned with school starting and the work that goes into school in our house being constantly 'interrupted' by two hour visits, or her taking them and homework not getting done, let alone how it's going to effect my time with DH.
Right of first refusal merely
Right of first refusal merely means - parent whose custodial time it is- will not be home/ available to take care of the kids and would need a babysitter/ family to watch them be this for work/date/vacation any reason.
Right of first refusal means that the parents HAVE TO call the opposit parent and offer the parent the right to watch the child during that period..;. thus the parent being asked has the right to refuse first before anyone else.
If your DH were to say no, sorry cannot watch him for you today, THEN BM could hire a babysitter to watch the kids.
And no, this does NOT mean you "owe" her time back if your DH does choose to watch the kids during the period of time she is unavailable. Your DH is effectively babysitting, for free, for her during that period of time.
Unfortunately, it's written
Unfortunately, it's written into the CO, if she has to work, and hire a sitter, DH pays half.
The time she would be putting the kids here would be during DH's normal work time, so they would end up being with me (also put into the CO as FROR). It's frustrating, but it's "set in stone" til the next court go round.