Wow. I don't know what to say to that. No way in hell would I be watching BM's dog because SD said so.

That dog would NOT be in my house much less MY bed!! Wow.

That dog would be MIA ASAP.

I think my DH would be MIA ASAP! lol

My XH watched my dog once for a weekend. He had the kids, and said it was ok. He recognized that the dog was important to our kids, too, and there was no issue.

The fact that some of you are suggesting doing something with/to the dog has me aghast. It's not the dog's fault you don't like BM or that DH didn't say no!

When my DH and I first moved into our house (and didn't have our dog yet) I came home from work to some little yip-shitty dog that bit my ankle within 3 steps of the door.

during the day, my DH had agreed with his ex to take care of the dog while she AND the sk's (and her dh) went on vacation because she "didn't have the money or the heart to board the little thing."

I was PISSED. And of course, the dog inherently became MY responsibility... it kept me up all night whining because I wouldn't let it in the bed, and the next morning my DH "slept" while the dog whined to get let out. I rolled him outta bed and said, 'Oh hell no, this dog is NOT my responsibility'. Let alone the fact that every chance it got, it growled and nipped at me. Now, I'm a HUGE dog lover, but I don't dig dogs that want to bite.... whether they weigh 5 lbs or 50 lbs. So I was livid about that too.

So I can see the dog issue. But the bigger issue is the lack of respect your DH has, as this is your house too, your time, your energy. There should have been no reason why that dog could not have been boarded. Just a weird question because I couldn't discern it from your post -- how old is the SD? Was it assumed she was going to stay home with the dog, or had it already been a pre-planned issue that she was going to stay with friends, and your DH was going to keep the dog?

I would give DH the choice either the dog goes to a kennel or I go to a hotel. Good Luck

This is such a typical enabling ex husband move. Make an agreement with her, slide the dog in under the radar....let the wife yell about how no one asked her when she should have been the ONLY other person who needed to weigh in on this (which I'm sure she would have said "No not our problem".....and then hope it all gets swept under the carpet with a little time.....that is until the next INCIDENT comes up and history repeats itself in some fashion or another!

Try asking your husband how he would feel if the shoe were on the other foot? What if you made plans to watch your X's dog without his input? How about that your X would rather inconvenience the two of you than himself with finding someone to care for his dog? What if you were snuggling up with X's dog in your bed? Would he not mind in the least?

Khaki....nip this shit now. I agree with the OP who said to accidentally let the dog run off. Not your problem. I'd slap the f*#k out of my DH if he pulled some shit like this. Then I'd tell him either the bitch's dog goes, or I go.

Poor dog. What a witch woman. I would put the dog in a kennel as much as I would feel bad for the dog. Period. They can pick him/her up. Your DH is way out of line with his favors.

UNBELIVEABLE! I would be super pissed that DH firstly did it without even asking you. Secondly, he made it his problem that bm didnt have anyone to watch the dog. Not his dog = not his problem. If his kids had a problem with it, they should watch the dog. You're right though.
If it were me, I would have cut him off at the pass and when he walked out with the dog, I would have told him to turn his body around and bring it back inside.

I agree about the dog, I could never let a dofg loose in the streets, if any harm came to it I would feel it was my fault no matter what. Animal cruelty is the lowest of the low in my books. Unfortunately over here in the UK the RSPCA do not pick up stray dogs if you call them otherwise that's all they would be doing. I would say make the dog love you more and the BM would have major problems when it went back. A dog would have no understanding at all about the situation and would be unfair for it to suffer. I'm sure if it came to a child being passed around because of a crap BM you wouldn't leave it to fend for itself or immediately pass it to the authorities. I would keep that situation in mind to bring up at a later date when needed.

Sorry had dogs all my life, I cry over animlas much more than people.

I cannot believe some of your comments about the poor dog. It's NOT his fault. The same way as the kids' parents splitting up is not the kids' fault so don't take it out on the dog - he has done nothing wrong. I can understand that OP is pissed off, and I would be too. However, the deed is done and OP, SD and DH need to take responsibility for that living creature for a week. Rules need to be made for the future to ensure this doesn't happen again. Personally, I would rather look after the BM's dog than the BM's kids, but then I am a dog person and not a kid person.

Wow. This would absolutely NOT fly in my house.

BM is leaving for TX in a few months and the SDs have asked what will happen to their dog at BM's house .. they've even asked if she can come live with us .. DH explained to them that if you want to have pets you have to be responsible and plan ahead for them. It is not our responsibility to care for BM's dog while she is away and that would be too much work since we have 2 dogs and a cat of our own.

They didn't question it at all and we haven't heard another peep about it.

An animal shelter is not the same as a boarding kennel. In a shelter, a dog that comes in is going to be segregated from other animals for a period of time to make sure it doesn't have communicable diseases. It is not necessarily going to get much attention because shelters are staffed largely by overworked individuals who, while trying their best, simply cannot spend too much time on any one animal. To say that "BM gets free care of the dog so what harm is there?" is forgetting that the shelter is utilizing resources to care for an animal that has an owner and a home. Shelter budgets do not have a lot of extra to care for animals that are not truly lost or homeless.

Any reputable boarding kennel is going to want complete records on the animal (vaccination and other vetting) prior to taking the animal. Some may also require an evaluation to determine temperment, especially if they have a "daycare" type set up where the animals get to interact with each other. Most kennels will not take an animal in unless a statement of financial responsibility has been signed and a credit card left on file.

I do believe that you may be stuck with the dog for now. It is not the dog's fault. It is your husband's. I suggest you look at a suitable boarding facility or shelter for him, not the dog.

It's not the dog's fault. I am an animal lover and would rather deal with the dog than BM, SD's etc. Don't think of it as a favor to BM but think of it as helping the doggy.

You have more patience than me. Bm called my fdh a few months ago when her boyfriend was moving out of the house for the 12th time and asked if she could bring her two dogs to our house while he got his things out and if my fdh would come help her move the kids rooms around. He was a bit taken aback and said no way in hell. She was shocked and asked why and he told her "because they are your dogs and that is your house, my only responsibility when it comes to you is my kids". I have to say every now and then I get really happy that he hates her so much. She seems to think he still sticks around to be friends with her.

In DH's mind he is helping SD not BM. Is he going to do her paper route for her too? Why couldn't she leave the dog at home and come back to feed it? Did this used to be DH's dog? I can't think of any other reason the dog would be in your bed.
In my situation BM has had over 10 dogs in a small house. BM ties to get rid of the dogs that SD likes. SD managed to pawn one off on my I laws. Now we get to take. Are of it when they go away. Argggh! I can see doing a favor for I laws but somehow I have to deal w BMs errors in judgement time and again. If I complain he says, "you just don't like dogs"....
SD has a dog obsession....so adding her large stinky dog + our dog + inlaws dog = too much dog

I'm pretty meek/beaten down when it comes to SD/BM but I would not allow BMs dog in my bed....but then I don't allow our dog in our bed either.