I am a SM of a SS14 and SD15. As most of you on here probably deal with, the BM is beyond the realm of normal. My husband and I have been together 10 years, the first 4 of which involved interference by BM every single day. She left my husband for another man but as soon as we met (a year later), she became obsessed. I am sure you are all aware of how this works....suffice it to say, every excuse she had to contact my husband "in the best interest of the kids" became 100 times a day, and when that didn't work, she did things such as sending boxes of baby formula to our address with her name on it. I could spend a day documenting the craziness, but the one lasting thing she has is the ability to control my SD. Typical PAS against my husband and SD, unfortunately is so affected and weakened by it, she is like a stranger in our house. My SD is a spitting image of her. She is the type of person, as encouraged by her mom, who gets told NO and then has meltdowns and cannot deal with it. For instance, my husband disapproved of her participation on a sports team that involved weekend travel 45 weekends of the year and practices that were an hour and a half away 4 nights a week. (Her mother has burned her bridges with 5 other teams, so she literally had to find a team outside of where we live.) God forbid he was against it. It did not become about scheduling, driving, etc. but rather how her dad loves me more than his own daughter, he is selfish, etc. so finally my husband said fine, stay with your mother. Flash forward a few years later, and we are here with a brat that shows up at our house that no one wants to be around. I feel horrible and guilty about saying this, but I have no feeling for her. I love my SS as if he were my own. He can be a handful at times, but he genuinely is affectionate, loving and like a son to me. I can get mad at him over stupid teenage stuff, but as with my own daughter, we get over it. My SD, on the other hand, wants to bully us into giving her what she wants so that, like her mom, people rather give in to her than deal with her. This isn't even a teenage thing, but has been her personality since I have known her. She has more blessings in here life, including an AMAZING father, and she doesn't even realize it. What do I do to stop feeling guilty about how I can't even stand to look at her? I realize no child deserves that, and any chance I get I (believe it or not) say supportive words about her mom when it comes up, etc. ... but is it acceptable at this point to admit that there are some people you will just never warm up to?