A little background may help. My dh has 2 exs and 2 kids. Both born prior to marriage, 2nd pregnancy caused 1st divorce. BM#1 is basically nonexistant but can be pain and very crazy, BM#2 is huge pain and also crazy. SD#1 lived with EX#2 (not the momma) for last 3 years but environment has become unhealthy, mentally, physically, emotionally for SD#1 so she now lives with us. I have cut off as much communication as I can between SD#1 and EX#2. She (SD#1) was originally ok with this but is not getting calls from friends and parents saying she is terrible for staying away from EX#2. Meanwhile, we want to have SS#2 live with us but he is happy living with crap. So we leave it alone. SD#1 has been called names, thrown out of house and just beat down because EX#2 does not "like her lifestyle." My SD is 15, a pretty good kid-no drugs, some back talk-learned it was o.k. to direspect from EX#2 and a lesbian. This is why EX#2 is abusive to her. Last time I checked women, especially those in your direct life were supposed to help empower you and love you unconditionally. Am I wrong. Enough details-what should I do? I don't want my SD miserable or unhappy or I wouldn't be doing my job correctly but EX#2 is not doing SD any justice by her actions toward her. And SD so deperately wants her approval even if it is toxic to her. She (SD) feels every woman has left her and they actually have. I have a o.. relationship with her, I am not known as mom or the like only by name. We are honest and open and talk but I am not her BM or the woman she knew as a toddler as a motherfigure.How can I help her without hurting her? Thanks so much for any advice as I am at my wits end and just short of calling everything quits.