Hi all, I wasn't sure where to put this so I stuck it here.

My SO of 3 years has an anger/resentment problem. His reactions to triggers in no way correlate to how major of a problem the trigger is. Forgetting to turn off a light results in the same anger as staying out drinking MIA until 2am. I never know when it is coming....he will be totally normal and then go ballistic. Sometimes I think he is joking because his reaction is so over the top. One time I was cooking and I put a pot lid in what he felt was the wrong place and you seriously would have thought that I took his 11 year old's hands and held them in the hot flames.

It has become an issue and I'm no longer tolerating it. I've disengaged from his behavior. I leave the room, even if he follows me continuing to yell at me. I keep calm and refuse to respond to his tantrums and tell him I we can talk tomorrow or later on when he calms down.

I see a therapist once every other week just for my general sanity. None of my other friends have skids and really get what I'm going through. The skids are great and I really do love them, it is still a challenge though. I just turned 27 I feel like I have no control over aspects in my life, my SO and the skids dictate everything.

Anyway, my therapist recommended this book for my SO's anger issues. Sure, I get angry as well, but not HULK angry. However, I put a copy on SO's ipad and bought myself a copy. SO is against self help so he ignored it for a while. We had a talk and I said "I really want this to work, but how we are operating now is not healthy. We both need to make some positive improvements and communicate better. I say we read this together, one chapter a week, and we can work on one little thing a week"

The book is meant to be read and worked on one chapter at a time. He agreed, and actually read the first chapter and intro on his own last week. Ever since I really feel like he's been working on it. it isn't too "self-helpy" and with short and easy to practice chapters, he seems to be open to it. I just thought I would share it here in case anyone else has the same issues.

The name of the book is "ACT on Life Not on Anger: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Problem Anger". I got a used copy on Amazon for $3 or so.