Hi everyone,

I am new to this whole forum set up but I have been holding my feelings in for too long and I guess I need some anonymous feedback to know I'm not alone or at least some advice in what to do.

I have been with my partner for almost four years. He has a son who is 5 years old and lives with his mother about 2 hours away from us. Due to the nature of my partners job and working shifts, we only have his son once or twice a month for the day. We have tried to have him overnight to stay but his mother won't let him.

My partner and I had been friends for several years before we started dating and so I was fully aware of his situation. At the time I was working as a freelance dancer based away from my hometown (where I met my partner originally). He would travel up on his days off to see me and vice versa. After three years of travelling and renting houses we decided to buy a property together and I gave up my job to work from our hometown. I have never resented moving back until recently.

My partners son has always been well behaved (although quite spoilt) and I have always looked forward to having him. My partner pays a lot of money, through his own choice, to his ex for maintenance of his son. Just lately his ex has started making things extremely difficult and saying we can't have him and that he doesn't like us anymore and doesn't want to see us. She has recently married and had another child and I feel she just wants to forget us and play happy families with her own.

There has been many situations lately where my partners ex has upset me and my partner and it is causing a lot of tension between us even when we try our hardest not to let it. I can't help but feel anger and resentment towards the child, even when I know it's not his fault, and when previously Ive cared for him so much.

I don't understand how my feelings can change so much and just can't see an end to the exs pathetic ways.

Please help....