Always Faking Sick/Hurt

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I'm not sure if any of you have experienced this but her it goes...My SD11 is ALWAYS faking sick or hurt. I know kids do get sick and they do get hurt but I can tell with her it's almost always for attention or to get her way. There's always something that she's complaining about. Part of what set this rant of is that today we got a bill in the mail. Awhile ago my SD had been with her BM and had complained of a sore throat but her BM didn't take her to the doctor. So when her BM dropped her off at my husbands parents house she was complaining so much that they took her to the er. While she did have strep throat (for once she was actually sick) I think it's crazy that she was able to talk them into taking her to the er when she could've waited to go to the regular doctor. It's obvious to me that she wasn't very sick because when she got home she was just fine running around playing with her friends all that. That trip cost us almost $200. A few months ago she got her finger shut in a car window which I know can hurt but she was freaking out and crying and throwing such a fit about it that my husband took her to urgent care. (Not the er but still costs a bit) She acted like the damn thing was almost broken off turns out there was nothing more than a bruise. Also about a year or two ago she kept complaining about her ankle limping around whenever anyone looked or when she didn't want to go to school. Finally my husband took her in they even did xrays and go figure nothing wrong. These are just some examples but I swear its stuff like this all the time. She acts fine all weekend or as long as shes doing what she wants but as soon as she's in trouble or doesn't want to go to school the next day suddenly it's something. She always has a headache, a stomachache, she's dizzy, her throat hurts, etc. It drives me CRAZY!!! Aside from being annoying it also gets expensive, she's at the doctor as we speak! Has anyone had this issue and if so what did you do?

When she is 'ill' isolate her

When she is 'ill' isolate her in her room with the curtains closed and no electronic appliances... no ipods, TVS... nothing.

If she has an injury apply the RICE procedure for 48 hrs. Rest Ice Elevation Compression. She CANNOT walk or weightbear, she cannot get off the couch.

I am worried she was allowed to run around with strep throat which is infectious and can cause heart issues. Strep throat means bed, rest and your own box of Kleenex which gets tossed once you are better.

In future tell the inlaws that if they take her to the ER without prior permission from you or your DH then THEY are facing the balance of the bill, not you.

But I bet isolating her without any distractions will cause a miraculous recovery rate!

Yep, sick means no tv, phone,

Yep, sick means no tv, phone, ipod, computer, etc. The only food is canned chicken noodle soup, saltines, water. No leaving your room, other than to use the bathroom. Stick to this, and faking sick is no longer fun.

My FH's daughter is 7 and she

My FH's daughter is 7 and she did this in the beginning...clearly it was an attention thing. I tried everything, thinking she needed attention (she doesn't get much from her BH) I also thought it was her way of saying she doesn't want ME to get all daddy's attention. But when it came down to it I spoke with a family therapist and she basically said the a 7 year old should NOT being running the house....which is what was starting to happen. Now the rules are in place and if you're 'sick' or something 'hurts' you go to your room until you feel better.

Needless to say she doesn't get sick anymore and nothing seems to "hurt".

I ended up having a talk with her and telling her point black "i don't think you're sick and I don't think anything hurts. i think something is bothering you but you don't want to tell me. I think you need to snuggle on the couch or want some girl time with me." We made a chart of faces and all the different emotions - happy, sad, mad, hurt, jealous, lonely, silly, etc. and then we made lists of why we feel the way we feel those things. Now when she wont say whats bothering her, we pull out the emotion chart.

Its been months, we don't use it anymore because we don't need to....Talking to them and calling them out on stuff works. Treat them like adults....they get it.

Snitchy does this! She fakes

Snitchy does this! She fakes knee and ankle injuries constantly! Always a whine to her Daddy that she is too siiiick to do her chores. And he says she must NEED the extra attention! A 17 year old walking around in a knee brace she doesn't need is absurd.

My DD's call her on it all the time! We work under the policy: "Can ya move it? Then it isn't broke! stop being a sissy!"

I say if she's so siiiick and feeeble she shouldn't be jackassing around at her friends' houses all weekend!

With the strep she didn't

With the strep she didn't come home till she she was pretty much all better she only had like a day or two left on antibiotics. We really weren't concerened she was sick anymore so we let her play but then come bed time she was "dying" again. For the most part we try to isolate her but then she just starts throwing fits which is another big issue lol. If she stays home from school she doesn't get to have anything only books. Turns our nothing was wrong with her when she went to her doctors appointment today big surprise!! Guess we'll wait till later to hear what she has to cry about now.

My DD does this! My ankle, my

My DD does this! My ankle, my head, my back. Its always something. I have three ruptured disks in my neck, three in my low back, She has them now, according to her.
I went to the doctor yesterday with more than the usual back pain and found out I have 3 kidney stones, this morning her back hurts, she has them too!
My Dh and I have figured out this is her way of getting attention. Trips to the doctor and er have stopped, unless she has a temprature.
And she is never coddled while she's faking it! You don't feel good? Go lay down and take a nap. Its amazing how quickly she recovers!

My stepson always has an

My stepson always has an illness or injury you can't really verify. When we first moved in together...he had extreme going pains that, oddly enough, made it impossible for him to navigate the stairs to help unpack...but fine enough to play football on a team. It only "flares" when my son (4years younger and much smaller) wants to play with him...but not when he tries out for the wrestling team at school. It makes it "difficult" to mow the lawn or run a vacuum...but never bothers him when he needs to ride a bike with his friends. ODD!!!!

It's all about the attention.

It's all about the attention. My SD13 does this all the time. As a matter of fact, she came home last night with a "badly sprained ankle". And yes she was limping but only when people were watching. And when I asked my son to take the dog out, she was all ready to take her. I wouldn't let her.

Every time she stubs her toe or bumps into something (which is quite frequent - she is a walking accident) you would think that she broke an arm or a leg or something. One night we were sitting at the kitchen table and she got up to get a banana and she bumped her hand when she pulled it off the bunch and gave a loud "owww" and when we didn't respond (because the counselor told us to ignore the obvious attention seeking behavior) she said it again.

Whenever possible, just ignore the attention seeking "illness/injury". You don't want to give positive reinforcement and encourage the behavior.

Good luck!

It's definitely getting

It's definitely getting better here with ignoring it.

Dh is a jock..plays every sport..and he is of the mindset that you shrug off pain. However, bm would still wipe ss's bum if he would let her. SS plays a lot of sports but after practice, we have to get an "injury" update because he relates every bump as if it's life threatening. We finally just started responding with "hmm"..and left it at that. Dh will sometimes throw in a "dude, you play xyz..it's a contact sport...deal!" But yeah...his growing pains...which, btw, bm took him to the dr. for and had xrays done, they disappeared when the whole house decided we could not care less.

God what's with these

God what's with these skids??? Lol sounds like all of them are a bunch of babies!! lol. I though maybe it was just my SD but I guess not. I don't understand why they do it though I would've been too ashamed as a kid to act like such a freaking baby especially in front of other people!

My three bio kids give him

My three bio kids give him shit...so I think that helps calm him down...he doesn't get away with pulling it without being given crap for it,lol.

Yeah...sports mom

Yeah...sports mom here.....

sick....then go lie down....but you can forget the doctor crap....had to doctor my self for in between games....Cant remember how many times I got told ....

'take a teaspoon of cement and harden the 'f' up'!

now if you feel better later....maybe we can all go to the mall ????

It is just an attention seeking thing.....ignore them....dont fall for their childish game.... unless they are fainting or cant breath...they are fine!

HAHAHA.... I think the wrist

HAHAHA....

I think the wrist is a hard one to pick up....my friend had the same thing when her son was throwing the football around....

after a couple of days she did take him to the doctor....yeah...fractured wrist...

oh well....

puts hand up Ah

*puts hand up*

Ah memories.

My younger sister used to fake being sick all the time for attention BLEECH!!!

Older two skids always had a headache, stomachache, Oldest SS15 Brainiac, faked a few injuries during football when his team was losing so he could get out of it.

Youngest skid, Prince Hygiene SS stb 9 was a hypochondriac from the get to. He always had a headache when it was time to eat a nutritious home cooked meal. He knew how to vomit on command for attention as well. Nice.

I never allowed my (now grown) bios to get away with that crap. In fact one time, "Peg" had an absessed tooth and she was such a NON whiner that she barely complained.

When we first moved in here,

When we first moved in here, we (dh and I ) were talking to the new neighbor, 42 yo man, built like a linebacker. His gorgeous 2yo daughter was riding a toy back and forth and fell off. Crying and howling ensued...he and I looked towards her and he said" Get up Maddy..you'll live"..and we went back to talking. I was the same way with my kids..."pity kitty, you'll survive". HOWEVER, my dh was SHOCKED!!! She's Crying!!! She's a baby!!!! You must tend to her!!!!! I thought he was going to go over and scoop up this strange child and coddle her....seriously!! Within a minute she was sniffling..wiping tears...and riding that toy down the driveway to gain speed...my kind of kid! Now I know exactly why ss moans and complains and feigns being near death....it freaking WORKS on his parents.

Last night ss came to me...15 min after bedtime, of course...and asked if his eye looked red.(his dad had stepped out) I said..yes...it does, good night. He looked STUNNED!!

My middle one was a drama

My middle one was a drama queen, if she fell/tripped, etc when she was little DH and I would whisper to each other and anyone around "don't make eye contact" LOL. Because if you just ignored it she went on her merry way. All 3 of my kids would get growing pains in thier legs from time to time, But middle one seemed to think she needed an ace bandage wrapped around each leg. I wouldn't hear of it but she got her dad to do it more than once. Cracked me and Perfectson up! Thank God she's nobodys step daughter- she'd probably be a real Tatum!