ALL about the gifts.............
So my ss10 just called and wanted to know how "expensive" his gifts were because he was wondering if we got him a ipod, ipad, computer, laptop and dsi for Christmas.....boy he doesn't ask for much! So I let him know that no none of his gifts were those and he started to ask if we could go to the store and get just the ipad when he gets here tomorrow! My husband just thinks he is being a kid which is sure what he'll tell me when i tell him. BUT i never asked for things like that! AND i sure didn't ask my grandparents for things like he does my parents! I just don't like his attitude 95 percent of the time! What do i do....he will be here tomorrow after a long dreaded thought of him coming due to the fact he always "wants" or "wishes"! How do I keep smiling and just laugh at the rude things he does or says! He really isnt a mean spirited kid at all though which for that I am thankful and I really do love this kid.....just don't like him all the time. It also kills me when I try and tell my dh things he just says "thats my boy" now on the other hand my dh and I share a 1 yr old daughter and he'll say "thats my girl" and that doesn't seem to bother me in the least! Am i just being horrible and mean??????????
Nope. It's Generation
Nope. It's Generation Entitled and nobody can stop it except their own parents...and that's not even a certainty.
Yes I am sure it is but it
Yes I am sure it is but it sure is annoying!!!!
I hope you didn't get him any
I hope you didn't get him any of that stuff! Kids are so spoiled with all these damn electronics these days. You should get him a board game and in my opinion that's too much judging from his attitude!
Sadly enough these are things
Sadly enough these are things that other kids are getting. I am guilty as well-my bs11 got an ipod this year. He also has a computer (he bought that one with his own money for his bday this year). Several of my dd13's friends got ipads. My 8 year old has a dsi. So I dont think it is wrong for him to wish or want these things; however, this is an appropriate time to tell him that it is fine for him to wish for something, but that in no way means he will get it and it is not appropriate to ask people to go get him things. IF someone where to ask what he would wish for then i guess he could answer, but otherwise it is rude to tell people to buy you stuff (any stuff). And it is certainly rude to ask someone if they got you expensive gifts. Make this a teachable moment.
Agreed!
Agreed!
Shootingstarz, i sure didn't!
Shootingstarz, i sure didn't! I just don't think that these are tangible items in my opinion....and especially for a 10 year old at that but I also do understand that other kids are getting these hismineandours so it does make it hard to explain why he cant have these things....but I think mainly it is his attitude about the whole thing....instead of appreciating what he has which he already has a ds that we got him a couple years ago but not the dsi that he said he didn't want until his younger brother got one I guess....his bm told me that now my ss wants one better than his brother and doesn't think his brother should have one at all! Talk about a brat! I guess I just hate the demanding attitude and just because he says I wish I had or I want that he thinks we should go to the store and buy it right then!
Good! Yeah the attitude and
Good! Yeah the attitude and thinking he can just get whatever he wants like that is just wrong. Kids are so ungrateful and think money grows on fucking trees. Another thing that drives me nuts is cell phones... Why do such young kids have cell phones these days??? I didn't have a cell phone until I got a car at 17! And I bought my own cell and car! I was never spoiled and I think that's a good thing. My DH's kids have said shit before about wanting a cell phone and I say well you better get a job then because your dad isn't paying for it. Of course they can't get jobs yet! But I just feel it necessary for them to know that they won't be spoiled in our home. If BM wants to get them one then so be it. She'd be using my DH's money anyway.
Yep I know how that goes! My
Yep I know how that goes! My ss has a phone that his bm "pays" for! He has had one since he was 8!
BM is always claiming shes
BM is always claiming shes "so poor" even though she owns 3 houses, etc, blah, blah. She is claiming she will go bankrupt if we take her to court on contempt because she is taking child tax deductions shes not supposed to (see my topic "IRS form Nightmare"). We are going ahead with the contempt because she refuses to amend her tax returns.
Meanwhile.....she drops a BOATLOAD on SSs for Christmas. Now, we have always know her claims of "poor" are b.s. but this really takes the cake! A "pocket rocket" motorcycle thingie for SS10 and a Fender telecaster guitar for SS16 (who doesnt even have a car yet, BTW, she claims to have "no money" to get him even a clunker). These are mucho expensive gifts. Although cant wait for SS10 to buzz around her "gated community" on that annoying thing. Good to know she can drop money like that though because man is she going to be surprised at how much she owes for taking child deductions the last 2 years. Not to mention attorneys fees and court costs for blatantly being in contempt. SO badly want to send an email along those lines but have to be civil leading up to court. Will update everyone.
On a related note, feeling bad for myself since psycho BM keeps messing with the IRS deductions, they keep holding up DH and I's tax refunds. So not fair. I have bills to pay, have to struggle to keep afloat and have to wait for my refunds all because a psycho decides out of the blue after 5 years "gee, I think I'll just take these deductions, no reason, just want to!" I depend on tax refunds. I withhold the maximum amount from a job that doesnt pay a ton. Stupid psycho, there is a special place in hell for someone who is nearing 50, nearing a DECADE divorced and STILL is not in a relationship. Hmmmmmm.....wonder why?