My boyfriend went to court yesterday and because the forensic assessment has not been completed by the psychologist the referee in charge of the case did very minimal. Basically my boyfriend will continue to have his child every other weekend as originally ordered but, he now picks up his child at the school and still drops the child at the PCT.
He was able to get his child for a few days during the winter recess with pick up and drop off taking place at the PCT. Afterwards they set another court date for both parties to return because, the court will need the final report from the psychologist.
After court my boyfriend and his ex were scheduled to see the psychologist. Now I wouldn't be so annoyed but, the fact of the matter is I am due to the fact after the session was done with the psychologist. My boyfriend returns to the car where I was waiting for him. He then tells me what happened. He tells me that before the session even started he was in the waiting area and so was his ex. He was talking on his cell phone and he see's the ex getting up walking towards him, she grabs a bag that she put right next to him which he state's he didn't realize she had put. She then take's the bag and throw's it in the garbage and say's to him, my child doesn't need hand me downs that is where they belong. What is she talking about? Well the week she was with us it snowed and so his child came with sneakers. My daughter gave her a pair of old timberland boots which she only wore last year and were still in good condition. Please note his daughter was so happy to have received the boots because, she didn't want to mess up the sneakers she came with. Anyhow the psychologist came out and never heard or saw what had happened. The ex walked inside the room with the garbage can and placed it by the side of where she was sitting. The psychologist asked what happened in court and my boyfriend told him. This is where I get even more annoyed because, she states how her daughter told her that my boyfriend and I close the door to our room that it's because, we are going to have sex and that is because, my daughter told her that. I couldn't believe this lady she has no limit to the things she will say. The psychologist told her that he didn't believe her because, he met my daughter and she seemed very intelligent and very well spoken. Furthermore, she then goes to complain due to the fact that my boyfriend is taking my daughter to a concert. My boyfriend indicated to her that he would have loved to take his daughter to the concert but, he doesn't have her that week. Furthermore, and this is where I get annoyed because, he didn't state it but, the reason my boyfriend is taking my daughter to the concert is due to the fact that my child earned the reward by getting good grade's which it was never informed to her that if she got good grades that this is what she would receive. My boyfriend knew my daughter wanted to go to the concert so, this was his reward to her. Furthermore, his daughter's grades are not even to the standard of being rewarded but, this part is my opinion every parent does what they want with there child(ren).
Then she goes to state that I have threatened her life and that her daughter has overheard me have conversation's with my boyfriend's sister stating how I am going to kick her ass. The psychologist then indicated to my boyfriend's ex that he didn't believe her because, he met me and I seemed very nice. The psychologist then asked my boyfriend how did he feel? My boyfriend replied that there was an incident in which she followed him to the car and the grandmother stated words to me and I took both of them to mediation which neither of them never showed up to. The ex was like the incident never happened and why should she go to mediation.
Then the session was over and that is when my boyfriend told the psychologist about what had happened outside in the waiting area. My boyfriend then asked the psychologist before they leave if his ex could please return the boots to him so, that they could be given to a less fortunate child. The ex then replied that she would donate them to her local precinct because, they take items. My boyfriend then insisted that he didn't feel comfortable that she would probably throw them away. The psychologist then stated return them to him or donate them but, if you throw them away it's on your conscious.
My boyfriend left.
I just feel tired of being mentioned as if me and my child were the one's being fought for custody and I relay this to my boyfriend but, he just feels that his ex digs herself deeper and deeper. I don't know I am just looking for people's perspective and advice.
Thank you