Ok. I’ve been with my spouse for 12 years. I have 5 children all grown except for 1. He’s helped raise her and he is the only dad she knows.  He has 3 kids. All grown. From the beginning I stepped up to help his kids. I was a manager and I got his 2nd to the oldest daughter a job for 6 plus years.  A job she abused but I let her stay to avoid conflict.  His oldest daughter would drop her kids off and never pick them up on time. So when I stopped getting them she pulled the “you’ll never see my kids again and called me names.  She’s a “reformed” drug addict and a liar and scanner of the welfare system.  His youngest is his 30 year old son. Now, I feel I have to mention that my spouse went through cancer and is now in remission. He also had both knees replaced. And the ONLY 2 that were present during that time was me and my 13 year old daughter.  They NEVER came to his home to check on him. And I mean NEVER! 

Fast forward to now & we live together.  Well his son had a contract to purchase his aunts home that he lived in for 8 years.  He never started the process to purchase the house in the 2 year time frame that was clearly stated in the contract. So when the aunt found a new bf after her hubby passed away...she wanted the house back.  Even gave him 8k to just move and give her her home back. He owns his own business and does very well. 

Rather than using the money as a down payment on a home he purchased a glorified shed.  Yes. A shed. He moved it to the backyard.  7 MONTHS AGO! He makes at least a grand a week! He added shelves and a wood burning stove.  But when he uses the bathroom or showers he does that in the bathroom that is mine and my daughters.  So donthe random (5-6) girls that come over all week long! I’ve noticed body sprays missing.  He floods the toilet EVERY SINGLE TIME! Nothing worse than plunging a grown man’s feces down the toilet.  He moves our stuff around all the time in the bathroom. He also has 2 dogs that live in his shed.  So before I can let my dog outside I have to make sure that his dogs are not outside.  He has 4 work trucks here plus his personal truck plus whatever girl is here at the times vehicle! 

Now we recently found out that he has an 8 month old child. You would think he would want to move out and get a decent roof over her head. Nope. His credit score is definitely good enough to buy a home. But nope. He did does laundry that he leaves in the dryer for 3-4 Fay’s at a time. Just keeps restarting the dryer! He comes in at 6,7,8am and YELLS at his dad to see if he’s up. Sleeping in never happens here. 

He brings girls in for dinner. He brings friends in for dinner. Just assuming we have enough. So to fix that...we ALWAYS make sure to have enough.  

Now when my 19 year old still lived at home with me my spouse told me that I should make him pay rent. But his 30 year old son who makes great money pays nothing. If ne or my 13 year old don’t clean the lint screen on the dryer we are called lazy. His son doesn’t hear a word when he does it.  He has taken over his Polebarn and shed (not the one he lives I )! 

I rinse out his spit and toothpaste from the sink. I clean the tub after him! I plunged his poop and gobs of toilet paper! I rush through my bath to accommodate him cuz he will sit on the couch and wait. I’m just done. 

But before I secure a place for me and my daughter to go to....I have 1 question....am I being spiteful or unreasonable!?!?