OK, now I am pi$$$$$$$$$ed!
DH went to the orthodontist with BM and Turd Blossom yesterday afternoon. It was 2 hours prior to our counseling appointment, but the subject didn't come up. It just hit me today how irritated I am by the whole thing.
When BM decides something needs to be done she will move heaven and earth to get her way. It's disgusting! Well, TB needs braces, it's obvious. The orthodontist said 6 months ago that she would need to have them within the next 2 years. Apparently he has changed his mind and was ready yesterday to have spacers put on this kids teeth and BM was ready to write out a check. DH said he wouldn't sign up for anything or make any appointments until he had a chance to "talk to his wife". 2 points for DH! What a guy.
The problem I have is...within the last year...child support was finally reduced from $1,300 per mo. to $200, in the last month we were able to stop paying for the useless private school (TB is going to public school for Jr. high) and BM came up with another tooth related expense for Lazy Turd to the tune of $850. Now this little adventure for TB is going to cost us $75 per mo. for the next 24 months!
UGH! When is the bitter hag going to stop nickel and dime-ing us to death!?
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Cs is supposed to cover ALL expenses...
You're not supposed to have to pay additional expenses for the children. She is supposed to pay everything that cs doesn't cover because cs was established as "half the cost of raising a child"...now in my case half the cost of raising one annoying little jerk is $2500monthly, worlds most expensive ejaculation. BUT, she shouldn't be nickel and diming you if there's already a cs amount you're paying. She needs to learn to budget her money better and leave your purse alone!
"We all have different desires and needs, but if we don't discover what we want from ourselves and what we stand for, we will live passively and unfulfilled.”
Oh BBB! You are the best!
Oh BBB! You are the best! I agree with you entirely. I like that approach, buuuuuuuuuuuut I think we are screwed because we paid for half of the older two turds braces. This time our half is as much as the entire cost of what one kid was before. Bad sentence structure, sorry.
I am thinking she needs to look into her coverage. She has refused to cover them on her insurance in the past, but I think it's time to reevaluate.
AWW!! xoxo
just because you guys covered the other kids doesn't mean you're legally obligated to cover this time also...it just shows that BM needs to start contributing this time, you paid for two children now it's her turn. Definitely look into the insurance...a LOT of our patients have their kids on multiple insurance plans and it's really worth it.
"We all have different desires and needs, but if we don't discover what we want from ourselves and what we stand for, we will live passively and unfulfilled.”
It depends on the decree
DH's says he pays for insurance & 1/2 med expenses on top of CS & 1/3 of daycare costs. He makes almost half what she does so tell me how that is fair. Especially since it is 163.00 a month just to insure the 2 skids. After we were married he started paying for 1/2 their extra cariculars. After our son was born I put a stop to that as it was not in the decree and I was the one paying for it not him.
We ( meaning me)paid for 1/2 of SS11 braces & I am praying SS 9 doesn't need them. What is frusterating is she decideds when it needs to be done, that decision is not made as a couple. What I would like to know is if they were still married would the kids be getting braces?
I don't know about where you're from but...
In Canada, braces/daycare/certain extracurricular activities etc. are called 'Special Expenses' or s.7 expenses and are above and beyond what child support covers.
So...along with paying your monthly child support, the parents of the child must also fork over cash in proportion to their yearly incomes.
Example: FH has to pay for 70% of all s.7 expenses and BM pays for 30%. If she increases her income then the following year the percentages will reflect that.
Just out of total curiosity...how did you get your CS lowered from $1300 to $200??? (congrats...wish I could do the same...lol)
EI - It's really sad
It started out at $3,000 per mo. went down a few times to $1,300 for a long period of time. When SS turned 18 we wanted to negotiate time-share for the other 2 and without a lawyer. We wanted 50/50 and said we were willing to go to court. She got scared because she knew we could get it and she would have to pay us because at the same time she would be going back to work and making more than DH. She said she would accept NO payment if we would not try to get more time. After many years of being beat up by BM, DH conceded. She did ask that we pay a few dollars per mo. so she didn't have to haggle over extras. It was lame but I said just do it. I don't want to have her coming at us every other day....hey WAIT A MINUTE! This is an extra!
Excuse me. I am going to have to go look at some paperwork!
sweetthing
You are singing my tune!
I think it does state that he pays for premiums and half of everything else.
He was paying willy nilly for stuff until I said I would pay the bills and only reimburse her if I were provided a paid receipt from her.
DH makes less than BM and I have NO idea how any of it is fair.
I have just decided to "disengage" at the approval and suggestion of a counselor (see my other post) and I feel like taking more action over what money leaves MY house and for what purpose. I'm sure we will have to pay, but I am going to prolong it for as long as possible.