Quit giving me coupons, please
BM has this thing where once every couple of months she'll give BF a ziplock bag with a bunch of coupons that she's clipped for us - diapers, wipes, food, air freshener, and other random stuff. I don't want her coupons. We don't even use coupons. Never have! Not that we're too good for coupons, we just don't have the time or inclination to keep up with them. I always take them to work and leave them out with a note, "Take these if you want" and most of them get taken up. I guess they're getting put to good use that way anyway...but really I don't know why she's doing this. Is she just trying to be nice? Maybe it's silly of me to think that she has an ulterior motive behind giving us coupons...?
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WOW!
I am a Coupon Queen! I would love it if someone dropped coupons on my lap.
I think it is unusual for any BM to give instead of take so I would be thrilled, but suspicious at the same time. Does she do anything else nice or suspicious?
I used to send extra cup cakes, cookies and stuff we would make with the kids back to BM's. I never got a thank you (from anyone) or a notice to stop either. Of course I just stopped when I realized this was going to be a one way street.
WTF...
You read the weirdest behavior of BMS.... in this forum...
I would just tell her... or tell DH to tell her to please stop giving you guys those coupons because you don't use coupons, so she can keep them... :O :?
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
But maybe its
her way of trying to help out?....just a thought....
"Sooner or later, everyone's bill comes due"
How much do you want it to stop?
If it is really bothering you then start giving them back to her. Send them back in the kid's bags or simply hand them back to her and say thank you for thinking about us but my sister/mom/friend also sends us coupons so we have plenty! If it doesn't really bother you then continue receiving them and putting them at work. The Bm could just simply be lonely and reaching out or she could be a whack job lol
i would LOVE
it if bm could be civil, and think about anyone but herself. i dont see how there could be any ulterior motives with coupons, so just keep giving them at work if you dont want them. imo, if you were to cause a fuss over this it would make you look bad, and perhaps thats what the motive is. on the site we complain about all the bm's that are nasty and crazy, and think of no one but themselves. There could be more behind this than i realize, so sorry if ive mis-spoken, but i think if its not causing any issues why make it one. She might be able to use it against you later in an argument if you do, she was being nice, you dont allow her to, blah blah blah
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RE:
To answer your questions: No, no and no. Everything she has ever done in the past to be "nice" has come with an ulterior motive or to hide something heinous that she is doing.
At the same time, it doesn't bother me bad enough to say something about it...at least they're helping somebody I guess? Ugh, I don't know.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Thanks to everyone
for your input. For all of you that say you would jump for joy if your BMs would do something like this, I don't know if you understand my situation very well. My SS's BM is a real certifiable whack-job...I think that SMomKay might be on the right track, BM might just be lonely and reaching out (she is a completely secluded sociopath) but I also agree with Danyelle and smnikki that she might be trying to insinuate herself into our lives by doing something that she can use as ammunition later (well I've tried to be NICE by sending you coupons but you're too good for that!).
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Nymh, I didn't read any other response, but I have
to say that is really weird behavior! WTF? Seriously? Sounds like her "cuponed cheese" has slid right off her cracker.
I'd just give them back and say no thanks. But very very weird.
~Happiness is defined by the smile on your face, not the frown on others.~
I think "sending things" is a way to annoy people...
BM sends crap to my house just to annoy me, and I admittedly have done the same to her. Now, the kids are with us 5 days a week and she goes back to ventura county when she drops them off, so it makes sense if they had a cake or something for her to leave it here with the kids, but sometimes it's dumb stuff she leaves. I have done the same though, knowing full well it would just annoy her, but then she throws out my dishes so I don't do it anymore-I learned my lesson.
"A parents job is to eat as much sh*t as we have to so that the children do not."