Let the demands begin
BF got a text message from BM this morning that said: "SS NEEDS MONEY FOR HIS TRIP". She has never texted him before - usually she will call or email if she needs something. BF answered back that neither BM nor SS mentioned anything to him this weekend about a trip or needing money for it. He asked her when the trip was and where it was to. No reply thus far.
I think that BF should say if he is paying for this trip, then HE should get to chaperone SS instead of BM. She always goes on school trips and extracurricular functions with SS which means that BF never gets to go.
BF and I are going to SS's town today to meet with BF's accounant. I am going to suggest that we go to SS's school and ask for his attendance records. I would be interested to see exactly how many days of school he's missed for the past two or three years.
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Good point BF should ask to accompany his son and I feel he can refuse to pay for the trip if she does not agree.
Don't know where you are but where I am, trips are not part of child support and he could refuse anyway.
BM used to call all the time asking for things. When her phone calls were ignored, she stopped as they were 100% BS.
She has asked we pay for half the car she wanted to buy for her daughter, put the insurance for it in husbands name, pay half the insurance, pay for a high school graduation trip
to Barbados for his daughter, and also complained her child support was not being paid, complaining to the state and starting investigations based on false info.
Finally, she has stopped but it did take a few years.
As a parent, you can go to the school to get attendence and acedemic records, not sure if the step parent can, but the bio parent can. Just call and make an appointment with the principal to get those records.
Attendance records
When BF was first thinking about suing for full custody a couple of years ago, we tried to get the attendance records. I called and explained the situation but they would not talk to me about SS whatsoever, they said it must be a "parent." We're not even married so I can understand that, legally I am not even a family member of SS's.
BF has yet to call himself because he keeps forgetting and never makes the time to do it. We all know it would take all of 10 or 15 minutes to do but it's very hard to get him to do things that he has never done before and isn't comfortable doing.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
sounds familair
My husband is like that too with his son, as we live across the street from his high school, there is really no excuse he doesn't go check on his attendance and acedemic records.
I've figured that if he does, there is really nothing he can do about it because ss does not live with us
and I have concluded in his heart, he feels it may be better to not know.
Not saying thats right, but I figure thats how he sees it.
I asked
He said no.
I figure that with us having been right there in town and having no time constraints, the only reason he didn't do it is because he just doesn't want to know.
I'm wondering now if his custody case is really because he wants custody of SS or if he's just trying to get BM to do what he wants. I figure if he REALLY wanted to win the custody case, he would at least get what evidence he could against her. SS's attendance records would be a gimmie really.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
I doubt it's a school trip.
I think she just wants BF's $$$$.
I think you should go to the school, and see how much time he's missed. I don't think the "field trips" she's been taking him on are field trips. I think she's letting him skip school.
Of course she is
SS misses weeks of school at a time because he's "sick" which really boils down to him not wanting to go to school or BM wanting him to stay home with her. She has this sick dependence on SS and even makes him sleep in the bed with her (he's 10). I'm really interested to see how much school he's missed.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*