Maybe I will feel better writing this -but I just don't get the weird dynamic between DH and SS Zippy16.5.

The adoration fest on DH's part starts early yesterday-Zippy has had dental surgery and is now a bit swollen and sore but highly on the mend. So much so he is going to a movie last night-HOWEVER..

DH and I get up early to do groceries (we are going to a BBQ later that night)-DH has another list of "soft foods" that we are to buy for Zippy16.5-fine-just why the big production in front of me-just write the friggin items on the grocery list.

We get home and Zippy16.5 is up-of course Zippy making breakfast takes presidence over putting the groceries away-so WE sit in the family room while Zippy is making his meal-with DH listing -item by item what we bought to Zippy that Zippy can eat! Apparently we did not get any cheese that Zippy likes for his eggs-SO DH GOES OUT TO THE FREEZER AND BRINGS IN EVERY PIECE OF CHEESE WE HAVE TO SHOW ZIPPY-none were good enough-so DH apologizes for our cheese oversite (my bet is today there darn well will be Zippy's cheese!).

I have said NOTHING so far and do not plan on it-just shake my head.

It was no tax day at the grocery store-so DH CALLS Zippy (this is before the cheese incident) to tell Zippy that he is picking Zippy up some triple A batteries and a re-charger-fine...we get home DH shows Zippy said re charger and Zippy looks at it as if it is a turd-not so much of a thank you out of Zippy's mouth-oh by the way Zippy will take the batteries but not the recharger (he has one already)-still no thank you to DH.

Zippy is supposedly looking for a job-on Friday I notice that one of the local businesses is looking for students. I mention it to DH and he says to me "I will make Zippy apply there"-. After Zippy's long luxurious breakfast of cheeseless eggs Saturday afternoon-DH says "Zippy, I would like you to go down to this local business and hand in your resume"-Zippy thinks not-DH asks him why-no answer. Zippy leaves to go gaming-I say to DH "I thought you were going to make him do the exercise of applying?"-I know why Zippy does not want to work at the local business-Zippy is 16 and wants to work where his friends work-DH agrees-DH then says I will drive you to said local business and the place of business where your friends work to drop off your resume-FINE-we explain to Zippy once again if he gets a job at the local business and the place he wants calls him -he can make the call to stay or go if he gets either job-apparently this is rocket science to Zippy.

Later that same evening-Zippy goes to the movies and we go to our BBQ-we have a nice evening-

Now am I out of line here-

As we are leaving our friends house H has apparently called Zippy and told him we will be picking him up on our way home-(this is the first I have heard of this)

INSTEAD OF GIVING ZIPPY THE OPPORTUNITY TO BUS HOME BY HIMSELF (a ten minute bus ride)-because it is dark (10:30pm)-16.5 is too young for walking two blocks in the dark.

I am now seething in the car-we could not do one thing yesterday that was not about Zippy-

I get home and let DH have it with both barrels-he is sitting there wondering what the heck I am talking about-ARGHHH

This is just so frustrating to deal with day in day out-what a make work project they both are!