Medical/Dental ins. and the snoopy BM. Help me out?
My DH has carried medical/dental ins. on his kids from day one. BM finally went to work 5 years after they divorced and still will not carry them even though she makes more than DH and he did his part.
Yesterday she left DH a vm asking about new dental coverage. Because I take care of the ins. he forwarded the vm to my cell phone. Don't cha just love technology! : ) I sent her an email with the info. she requested and she, as usual, did not respond to me. Last evening she saw DH at an event (she had no business being at) and discussed it with him. She let it slip that SOMETIMES the ins. company will give her information when she calls and sometimes they won't. My feeling is that they SOMETIMES give her the information when she remembers to pretend to be me. Myself and my 2 kids with DH are also on his ins. and I don't feel like sharing my personal medical information with HER!
Does anyone else have this problem? She has all my personal info. because of things we had to share and exchange once for custody and child support changes. So, she can answer things like last 4 of s.s.#, maiden name, etc.. I have spoken with the ins. co. years ago, but they said they take every measure to prevent security breeches and there was not much they could do.
Anyone?
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I am in the same boat, my
I am in the same boat, my crazy BM got my ss number when I filed an order of protection on her and the papers had my ss number on them and that is what the court sends her, how fucked up is that and she too knows all about me, but my insurance company and my bank all let my do a password before any information or money is let out, I told them my situation and they were more than willing to let me do a password, because I carry the insurance and there is no way I want her to get my info. So I think to be safe you should do the same. Danyelle BM does not need the last 4 digits but most court papers put them all over them, that is what happened to me too. So I suggest a password only you know, my only problem is that my DH can never remember the password and you can not get money unless you tell them the password and spell it!!!!
Last 4 of s.s.
I do not beleive that the court papers have my S.S. #. However, we were REQUIRED to share our tax returns and other info. which has everything she needs to get past the "For security purposes can you please tell me the last four digits of your social security number?"
Thanks Rosedeer. I am going to call on Monday and try to get them to understand. I didn't push it last time, but at this point I am just done with her.
HIPPA
I suggest you look into HIPPA laws and contact your insurance company and threaten to report them if they cannot deal with the situation in a way that will 100% protect your privacy. Just a thought........
http://www.hhs.gov/ocr/privacy/index.html
HIPPA
Interesting! I only looked at the link for a minute, but I will give it more time before I call them on monday. THANKS!
HIPPA IS SO ON YOUR SIDE
If you ask your insurance company to creat a PIN or password to access your information they have to abide. It's a simple as calling your customer service and asking for. Just make sure its something that BM wouldn't know.
what I did
Because my husband carries his kids on his insurance, I called the insurance company and created a password.
Without the password they are not to give info as I told them I am not the ex wife and I did not want her snooping into my personal info. It worked out well so far.
His daughter was dropped at age 19 from his insurance per the ins company rules ( they will not carry her anymore after age 19 )
and her mother, who she lives with, her mother who makes about 100K a year WILL NOT PUT HER ON HER INSURANCE as she will have to pay a monthly fee and also co-pay 100% for any children/ dependants as its ponly free for her, no one else, not even her kids.
Her insurance is free, but only on herself !
Bio mom called my husband complaining how he should keep her ( the daughter) on his insurance but its not up to him, its the insurance company rule as she is not a full time student. Insurance stops on 19th birthday, period !!!
Bio mom was saying how he does not put her first... haha
He told her if she wants to put the daughter first, to do it herself and put her on her insurance.
We never heard a word about it again from bio mom !!!!
It's been a while since my
It's been a while since my daughter went to college, but as long as they are in School or College FULL time they can be kept on the insurance. I believe up to age 24. Of course this has been a few yrs ago. But check for sure. Also check the divorce decree it will also spell out how long BF has to insure the child for.
I am also in this same situation with DH psycho EX.... I have been bi-ching to DH about this since OCT 08, because I don't want this Beast to know anything about me. :sick:
After college graduation my daughter moved Syndey Australia and I will be visiting her in a few weeks for about 14 days.....
2yrs ago I went for 20 days..... OMG was it wonderful. When I get stressed out about the EX and her train wreck of a life as I call it, I just go to my special place in my head remembering the beautiful blue waters and the people and the life in Australia. And let the train wreck run right off into the water.
Have a great day everyone......
Well the good part of my
Well the good part of my story is that atl least CS stops at 18. Insurance was negotiated (by me) because it would not cost us anything to keep the older stepturd on through college. unfutuantely if we do that for all 3 that means another posible 12 years of her having acess to my records! Arrrrgh!
Have a great vacation and I'm sure you will come up with some more visuals to get you through the hard times. I'm going to have to do that.
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"Waiting for them to simply PAS out!" ~ Wicked2Three