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Submitted by bewitched on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 3:42pm

Ok, ladies and gents. Your prayers brought my Mom thru her surgery - she came out fighting (mostly me!).

Thanks to all....

Now I need selfish prayers. I need "bewitched needs a job desperately" prayers.

I give up the thought of school. I just want out. Out of this abusive relationship. I just want to be able to meet my financial obligations, and show H to the door.

His screaming at me over the $180.00 for motel room when my Mom was in the hospital was the last straw. My parents are reimbursing us, tho they shouldn't have to as we live rent free in this house.

But this man, who spent a week ago Sunday, screaming at me over the expense of staying near my mother, has shown too much of his true colors. He had spent $1600.00. on himself just the week before-on things he didn't need, but wanted.

And now its all out in the open-the income tax evasion, the house going up for tax sale....he open face lied to me about his finances to get me to marry him.

So I so desperately need your prayers; a job for me. I feel like I'm on the very verge of a nervous breakdown, and him being here, belittling me, gambling, sitting doing nothing, while I work here and at Mom and Dads, will be the end of me, I fear.

Please pray.

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Endora's picture

Submitted by Endora on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 3:51pm

AND I am looking forward to the post that 'H from Hell is out the door"

One day at a time-one foot in front of the other-

Hope your Mom gets better and better!

Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!

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Submitted by Dawn-Moderator on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 3:57pm

Hang in there. You'll find something and send H packing! Better days are ahead!

Dawn

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Submitted by littlegrlzx4 on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 4:03pm

This too shall pass- you'll find a job and take your life back.
HUGS!

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Submitted by sweetthing on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 4:06pm

& prayers sweetie. This man is just plain evil. I am so sorry that you are going through this.

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Submitted by sparky on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 4:08pm

Call an attorney ASAP and find out what you need to do to get him out of there. I'm sure he is planning on camping out there for the next 2 years while he is out of work so it will take an action to get him out. Does your parents have the money to pay you to take care of them? Sounds like you already got a full time job taking care of those two. Our prayers are with you. He's a scammer and with the economy being so bad we are going to hear more and more of the same thing happening to other women.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 5:37pm

I really, really hope this works out for you and will pray for you to get a paying job!! They say there are jobs even now if you are flexible in what you can do?

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

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Submitted by Tara12 on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 8:10pm

to read your post saying that you have kicked his ass out of the house. He is nothing but a lying, good for nothing, freeloader. He let's his house go in to foreclosure so he can live off of your parents for FREE! Quit telling yourself you have to quit school. STOP THAT RIGHT NOW. Yes you will have to get a job, you had one before didn't you? There are a lot of us on here that work and have gone to school and gotten degrees. I worked 9 to 10 hours a day and went to school a couple of nights a week, took on line classes and got a bachelor's degree in business while I had a teenager at home. You don't have to worry about anyone but yourself. Yes I know you have your parents to look after but that can be worked out as well. Good luck - you can do ANYTHING that you put your mind to.

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Submitted by doglover1 on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 8:24pm

I will pray for you and your mom and dad too. I say the rosary twice a week with a group and its powerful,,A(at least i think so)....Beleive in yourself too that you can over come this!! HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 9:19pm

and you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Submitted by BridgingTheGap on Tue, 03/10/2009 - 9:54pm

Its time for you to do what's best for you. He's not grateful for a single thing you have done for him. I hope you find a job soon so you can make some $, get your divorce finalized ASAP, and when the time is right, go back to school. Don't give up! It's going to be hard but you can do it. It won't be easy but you'll be so proud of yourself when you finish. You'll be proud because you will know that despite all the hell you've been through, you still did it all on your own. Nothing feels better than that. Trust me.

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Submitted by Sarah101 on Wed, 03/11/2009 - 8:24am

From experience I know that it takes about 6 months from the start of legal divorce proceedings for the divorce to be final. The worst situation would be if your parents went downhill fast and you were still legally married to this pathetic jerk. You KNOW that he would claim half of everything!

Please don't wait for employment to do your legal homework and start the process. While he lives at your home he will have to contribute--you can have an attorney help you there. Where else is this jerk going to park his fat ass for the next 6 months?

The tax thing is completely frightening, too. You don't want to end up in a situation where your inheritance pays Jerk's taxes, so file that "Innocent Spouse" form ASAP and get moving on a divorce NOW.

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Submitted by bellamolido on Wed, 03/11/2009 - 12:59pm

Dear bewitched!
I know your situation is very hard, but remember to stick to your guns, do not give up and kick this bastard out of your life! You do not deserve any of that shit your H and SD give you, and if you stay longer in this relationship it will destroy you! Do not give up your decision, I am praying for you and sending you lots of positive energy.
Good luck with finding a job!

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Submitted by bewitched on Wed, 03/11/2009 - 3:56pm

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

directions at once. Alimony is out...for several reasons-
1. Short marriage
2. H will soon be on unemployment
3. H never pays his obligations (even the Federal government doesn't put a crease in his brow)
4. Trust me on this-I do know this man. If I would for some reason be awarded alimony, he'd just quit his job and disappear. From what I could piece together thru his past with the IRS, he's been quite successful at evading bills, etc.

So yep, a job is first and foremost. I am trying desperately to finish this class, but it's so difficult. My mom does not seem to understand that I can't just sit around and visit at the hospital. I make to the meetings, talked to the nurse about her, take her whatever she needs, visit briefly, run over and fix dad lunch, make the necessary calls for care after she is released, and try to get some study time before it's time to fix supper for Dad and clean up over at their house.

And look for a job.

I'm about ready to crack up!

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Submitted by stepmasochist on Wed, 03/11/2009 - 3:58pm

to not be delivered from this nightmare soon. I hope that happens very, very soon for you - like yesterday.