Well aside from everything els I have going on, DH and I talked last night about when and how to communicate with BM (Miss Piggy),(relating back to a past post of what animal would BM be/resemble) about having the skids come here for their visit. My MIL has not said anything about talking to BM (i don't think she really wants to), and that's o.k., it is up to us to do it really, I understand, but DH is dragging a little on this. At first he thought of creating a"fake" e-mail address, and try to write to her, this way if she blew up like she always did in the past, we would just cancel it out, and it would not affect our personal one. It sounded like a good idea, until...I think he had a few "flashbacks", and no longer wants to do that. I told him we could just bite the bullet and call, and I know that will probably be just as hard, but there is the beauty of hanging up if he can't get anywhere with that. If she keeps calling to harass us, we can just shut the cell phone off and ignore her, and forget about asking her. Then there is also SS. DH thought about calling him about this, he is 15, so it's not like he is to young to talk about this with, but BM usually gets mad about that.....everything they do HAS to go through her, but he thought about telling SS have your mom call me about dates you can come up, and I'll book the tickets, and send the info to her. Sounds simple enough, right??? We'll see. I told DH that I know you don't want to do this part, communicating w/ her, but it needs to get done soon, as I have to plan for my kids trip as well. So I'm leaving the rest up to DH, ball is in his court, I just hope he gets this over with soon, so I know whats going on. It's like pulling a band aid off in slow mo!!