Our crapy valentines day
Well after trying to teach this kid some responsabilities for the past couple weeks which has been really tough.Bm phones and starts swearing at me on the phone so i went to police station and they took a report about and called and told her to be civil.I knew something was up because shes been calling alot lately.Last night dh took me to dinner and we get home and there is a note on the table saying MOVED TO MOMS and dont forget child support check the address is......Is that f'd up or what so that was our valentines.
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She
really needs mental help because we were trying to get ss just to wake up in the morning with an alarm clock and he wouldnt do it because he wanted us to buy his game card and we said no until he starts to help out around the house so he was pissed about that and im sure she instigated ss leaving.I also think she was in my house last night it was all planned we were gone an hour and it takes almost an hour to drive from her town to ours so i think they were waiting for us to leave.I cant believe ss16 would do that to his dad you would think he knows better.
Isn't that illegal
and like a parental abduction, to come pick up the kid to run away to the other parent's house? He didn't walk over there!
This is a pathetic attempt to 'buy' her own kid's love, and is really just despicable to do it like this, a freaking note on Valentine's Day. Can you take her to court or just get the police to enforce the existing court order?!!
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
just remember how he ended up at your house in the first place
she couldn't handle him. It'll be a nice respite from him, until things escalate over there again, and he'll be back on YOUR doorstep.
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein
The officer
that i talked to a couple days ago isnt in til tonight so i am going to talk with him when his shift starts.I dont think they can do anything about it because hes 16 now.But at least if we went back to court all this stuff is recorded.
I wonder if it is really even worth going back to court.
If he is 16 and going to play these back and forth games, why bother? Unless you have to pay support till he is 21 or finishes college.
After paying for a lawyer would it be a wash? Maybe not, just wondering.
Its not
worth it because it has been games for 5 years now and we are drained emotionally.She has turned the kids against us and that is really sad.Its to bad ss was a spoiled brat because he didnt get what he wants from us he moved out and hurt his dad and left drawers full of dishes for me to do.All over having some responsabilities and not catering to him.
I think
she actually came in my house last night to and that pisses me off.She probably walked around and it gives me the willies to think that but i cant prove it or else id have her arrested.
I would be very upset if BM
was in my house without permission as well. Heck i don't even like her stepping in my living room waiting for SD! I would leave her a message not to ever enter your home again, I'm sure she did.
Do you think that it is mostly BM that has caused this trouble, steering SS away from you both or do you think it is SS being a spoiled brat?
I used to think that SDs BM must say bad things about us to SD to get her away from us. I found that she does this a little bit BUT it is mostly SD manipulating situations and lying to get someone to indulge her. In my case, anyway.
If SS is this manipulative and conniving behind your backs maybe it is best to not have him in your home.
I would check the age limit
Here in WA there is no age limit where the kid gets to choose who they stay with that means until they are 18 they are stuck with which ever parent has custody
yes
I know that bm bashes dh and i to the kids she calls us white trash and many other things but that is her favorite.I phoned the police last night and they could not do anything because he was of age to be where he wanted.He is very spoiled and that is why he left because he didnt get what he wanted so mama told him to move in with her and she will buy his game card with cs money.What kind of parent would do that?It all started when he asked for 40.00 for his game card and we said no he has to start helping around the house and he said no so he has been pissed at us for that.
Oh no
I have a feeling it is going to be the same way with my SD. We just have her Wed and EOW. But I am sure that the first time she doesn't get her (when she is older) than she will refuse to come over for visits.
And it will be us, not BM. BM has no rules and does not allow SF to step in.
I did
try to go get a peace bond against her because after i talked to the police he said that is an option so dh and i went to the court house and seen a jp who turned out to be a b>>>>she said no because i dont have proof of her doing things i put on the application.So i said am i supposed to put up with this for however long and the jp said go get a lawyer!!and that was it for that.
yup
I feel ya sam, we finally put our foot down with FH bioson, (he was living with us, cuz his wonderful mom booted him out at 12.5y/o)well at 17 he had not finished high school nor had a job or if he had one didnt keep it did not help around the house what so ever would come and go as he pleased. so we said either you help around here or you need to hand us your key, Unibomber did not like that so he turned in his key and skipped over to mommy's house.
he does what he wants over there and still as far as we know still does not have a job and he is 19!!
truth be told it has been the best thing to happen to me, it has hurt FH terribly but he is coping.
good luck sam.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."