it sucked! I think that they do it just to get under our skin. If I were you, I would got to a thrift store or a consignment store (so you are not spending so much money)and purchase her a few things she can keep at your house. Then just don't return the things that are too small. Instead, take them to the consignment store and sell them (if they are in good condition).

Not that they did not fit or that they were too cheap but that he (SS) did not need those nice clothes, shoes, etc ........

We never went overboard we just bought the best mid level type stuff we could afford at the time.

They still will comment on his clothes and belongings when on visitation. Most recently his cell phone. I got him the cheapest phone available a couple of years ago and share my plan minutes with him so that it is more convenient for us to get him too and from school, after school events, to and from his friends houses on the weekend, etc .... I did not get him the phone to spoil him, I got him the phone because it was easier on ......... ME!

They grouse at him about how he does not need a phone whenever he is with them. I think the issue is that now that he has a phone they cannot control when he speaks with us when he is on visitation. We call him once or twice a week to check in. We are sensitive to the fact that when he is on visitation it is his time to spend with his Dad and family but we do like to call him occasionally to check in and let him know we miss him. Prior to the cell phone, we could never get hold of him when he was on visitation. During the 5wk summer visitation this would cause a lot of "what if" stress for my wife.

Interestingly, in more than 14 years of our blended family they have called to speak to him less than 10 times.

Regards,

When my SDs were little, BM made it a habit to send all of their clothes with them, but they all needed to be washed. They were crammed into a big garbage bag and they reeked. My guess would be that BM is sending the too little clothes so that you will buy new ones. It is another power play and unfortunately she will win because you are a kind, decent person who wants the poor child to have good clothes that won't embarrass her.

when BM buys clothes for SD(which is hardly ever)they are skin tight and slutty looking (SD 13). She bought her two t shirts and a pair of jeans (at the beginning of winter so you know they were on sale and dirt cheap). Jeans so tight SD can't bend over and t shirts so tight you can see the print of her training bra - I just thought BM was doing her 'slut in training' thing, I never though she might be doing it to piss us off. H never says anything but I told SD she cannot wear those clothes when she goes somewhere with me. H did not get upset over me saying this, he did not make any comment - that just goes to show he does not approve of the 'slut in training' clothes ether. Of course ALL the rest of SDs clothes have been purchased by (guess who) me - so I told her to save the outfit her mother bought her for when she is with BM (The slut trainer).

She does that because she wants your household to pay for new clothes for the kids..I have heard of many BM's who do this kinda stuff...Sending their kids to ex's house in crappy, holy, stained up and to small clothes. I guess they think that if the DH and SM are embarrassed to have the children dressed like that they will buy them new clothes.

Just by the kids new clothes and keep them at your house..They go back to BM's in the clothes they came to your house in..

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

that BM was squandering the CS check on her Harley and not getting SD shoes or clothes.

Now, since I know darn well that SD (mine at least, I know a lot of yours are little) packs for herself, I'm thinking she "forgets" to pack her (expensive) shampoo, or razors, or hairbands. I also think that she doesn't think to tell her mom that she outgrew her pajamas or that BM is totally ignorant of the fact that athletic shoes have to be replaced fairly frequently if you don't want to hurt yourself. (shoes with no tread are NOT okay just because you bleached them and they don't have any holes in the upper)

I know that I have the knee-jerk reaction to blame BM, but SD is a scatter-brained little flake who isn't held accountable - so we pay for her twit-ness.

~Trish

to say that they 'forgot' sd's suitcase when they went to the airport to send her here. She just sent her in the clothes on her back, for a 2-week visit! She wanted DH to buy Sd everything that she needed, when we already pay so much just to get to lay eyes on the kid! So we buy stuff that stays here too, for just these occasions.

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin