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35-year-old SD called today for money--AGAIN.

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Submitted by secondwife64 on Sun, 12/14/2008 - 8:18pm

I won't go ino the whole history, but this kid has been asking for and getting money for a looooooooong time. She's alway's got a sob story. Today I just reached my limit, and told H that this has to end. When H saw I was perturbed, he said, "Kids!" to which I replied "She's not a kid. She's an adult." I also told him that this child has never had to live out the consequences for her poor choices, and therefore she will never stop asking for money. This upset him H. Now I feel llike a mean old witch. BTW, I had no role in raising this SD (Thank god). Am I so wrong to be sick of the gravey train? This SD is 35 years old!

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Submitted by melis070179 on Sun, 12/14/2008 - 9:49pm

Does she have kids? Does he give in to her for his grandkids? Thats my stepdad's reason for always handing over thousands of dollars to my brother...his 3 kids. He doesn't want them on the streets. It really does need to stop. I couldn't put up with it, no way.

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

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Submitted by bewitched on Sun, 12/14/2008 - 11:14pm

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

And your H is what-an enabler? In that he wants his "kids" to never grow up, but always need him for something financial, to always maintain a little piece of control?

Enough is enough. He is doing no one any favors by being the gravy train. Not him, not you, not his grown daughter.

In though times like these, there are occassions where I can see either an elderly parent, or a grown son or daughter, falling on hard times and needing a hand-but not a hand-out-and it doesn't sound like this is anything new.

Sound like (buzzer) you're the one in the right on this one!

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Submitted by disgusted on Mon, 12/15/2008 - 1:50am

Nope your not wrong...Sounds like DH's "sister" (who is really his half neice but was raised by DH's parents).. She is 27, has been married for four years, has a one year old child and has never lived out from under her parents roof...Yep they have lived with her parents all this time. She acts like she is a three year old and sits on her fat lazy butt constantly whinning and crying about how broke they are and she doesn't know how they are going to make rent or buy diapers for their baby...In the course of four years, they lost two houses and had to file for bankruptsy to be able to afford that baby that they "planned" for...Ummmmm...Did I fail to mention that "sluggy butt" as I call her has a masters degree that she won't get up off her butt and utilize??? Hell, she won't even accept enough responsibility for herself to get a drivers license!!!

Every time we hear from her she is hinting for us to loan her money and whinning about how broke all of them are...The parents in laws are moochers too...Sorry, get up off your lazy butt and get a job!!!!

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted