Christmas has now been cancelled for SS
My mom had been watching SS until I got home since I don't want him alone with my pups after what he did (see previous blog), well she came outside the front door to talk to me and I guess SS didn't know I was home I look into the window and he's trying to right my dog around like a horse!
I was PISSED. Dozer just had surgery to have BB's remmoved and he's not a huge dog and SS knows better than to do this since I've told him before.
My mom was pretty pissed as well, once I got into the house SS acted like he didn't do anything, I told him I saw him riding the dog and that he was in so much trouble, he starts trying to make excuses etc... My mom is very old school and she's Korean so back talk is a no no with her. She proceeded to grab SS by the arm put him in his room and proceeded to spank him and also told SS that Christmas was cancelled and that he was grounded until the new year.
What can I say I LOVE my mom, she did exactly what I wanted to do except I'm sure I would have backhanded the little monster, BM is terrified of my mother so I'm sure we won't hear anything from her but I'm sure DH won't be happy when he gets home. Oh well he and SS can leave if they don't like the rules, honestly at this point I'd rather they did
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Your mom rocks!
That is exactly what that little f*&!$% needed!!! That's exactly what should happen to him every time he does something horrible like what he did to Dozer. Kids need to respect authority...parent, step, whatever...they need boundaries and to be taught right from wrong.
My H is bad at all that...he lets them pretty much run amok, and like I've told him time and time again, if you let them just run wild they will eventually wind up in jail...and it sounds like that's what's going to happen to this kid.
I like that your mom did the punishing...that removes the burden from you so he doesn't blame you...he'll fear and respect your mom. It's hard to discipline when you're the step, so it's kinda cool that your mom did it. I mean, what can your H say about that?lol You should get your mom to go after him too because he sounds like a spineless little wimp.
It sounds too like this kid not only doesn't have boundaries, and has issues with self-control, but it seems like he's specifically targeting your animals to get at you...you know? It sounds like he just wants to hurt you in any way he can...and that's another serious problem that will definitely need counseling.
You sooo have your hands full! Hugs to you--stay strong girl!
I will speak for Mustang1
she and i email a lot
her BF's biokids run amok and have and now I think they have all been in some sort of police trouble or another.
he has three, as for me my F did not have a set of rules for his oldest and he has been in lots of trouble. cops, friends, fights smoking dope.
is this what they want their kids to be just because they cant say no??
i will NEVER understand it.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
Are you prepared to keep a constant eye on this boy
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
so he doesn't hurt that poor dog anymore? How old is SS? I honestly think it would be almost impossible to "accidently" shoot an animal in the chest twice-maybe once, and that's pushing it, but twice? Now this. Seems the boy has no compassion for animals at all-unless he's too young to have developed compassion. And if he's too young, how in the world did he achieve shooting Dozer?
If animal control had been involved, I'm sure the judge would have ordered immediate and intensive counseling for this child for shooting Dozer. I'd be sooo careful if I were you. Could he be taking out his animosity towards you on the dog?
Please tell us
HOW OLD IS THIS LITTLE BRAT????
I was re-reading yesterday's post as well and looking through some of your older posts, trying to get an answer to this question.
Not that this kind of behavior is right at ANY AGE, but the older this kid is, obviously the more signifigant the problems!
Obviously, the brat is NOT in any way remorseful for his actions of shooting poor Dozer, because if it even was an accident, you'd think he'd be extra careful around the poor dog, trying to RIDE him just days later????? That just shows the kid is CRUEL and SADISTIC!!!!
I shudder to think what your clueless DH says about this latest episode regarding his "little angel"
And PS- YOUR MOM ROCKS!!!
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
SS is 10
and he's NEVER staying alone with the dogs again. I've made that perfectly clear to DH. My mom was talking to SS last night and it seems that once again all this is a BM issue, seems when BM got SS the gun he told her that he wasn't allowed to have one because we thought the were dangerous, she preceeded to tell him that BB guns didn't really hurt that they just just hit you and stung a little so when he was playing army outside with the dogs he didn't think it could actually make them bleed and get hurt. Sometimes I think the kid has the mental age of a 3 year old.
I'm still don't believe that SS didn't actually know that the BB would hurt Dozer and I'm actually more pissed that he just left the dog alone bleeding and hurt, I just want to ring SS's neck everytime I think of it. SS is still grounded until Jan (what my mom says goes) and he's still not allowed to be alone with the dogs, my DH is loving that since I won't watch SS for him anymore he has to take him everywhere, to the gym, run errands to watch football with friends - he he should have thought of that before not backing me up.
I did talk to our lawyer and she said that when SS goes to counseling (he starts tonight) to get the counselor to document the fact that BM told SS false information about what the BB gun could do and that when she has the couselors report she's going to file charges and request the judge to force BM to pay for the vet bill ($3k).
PS Seems my mom told SS that if the dog is EVER hurt again or if he gets out of line she will be more than happy to give him a repeat of yesterday so he's been really good. My mom is also going to be watching him after school and has him volunteering at the animal shelter need her place on the weekends he's with us I think she's put the fear of God in SS which is just what he needs.
I love your mom!
and your lawyer too - SS better watch his step-!!!!
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
can I borrow your mom?
you think she can get a rather large 12 yr old to shower?
gawd he stinks to high heaven.
Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
Again I say...
YOUR MOM ROCKS!!!
I love the fact that she's making him volunteer at the animal shelter. There he can come to appreciate what animal cruelty looks like. Sometimes reality like that truly helps (also picking up a ton of dog poop will do him wonders).
It's good that you spoke to an attorney to get this all documented and she feels that the evil BM should pay the vet bill. I hope the judge agrees. And yes, I call her "evil" because that's exactly what her actions were in this case!
I'm also glad SS is getting the counseling he needs asap. And I'm also glad that DH is "punished" by having to cart around his son wherever he goes (but somehow that just doesn't seem like enough to me...)
Maybe he should be right along side SS at the animal shelter picking up dog poop, too!
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
DH had already given my mom
DH had already given my mom full range when it came to SS being in her care, SS knows this too because we remind him everytime we leave him with my mom. Cancelling Christmas was something DH and I had threatened SS with if he hurt the dog again and my mom knew that. I think riding a dog who was just shot and in surgery is hurting him. DH is pretty pissed at SS right now since SS hurt the dog again and I think he's embarassed that my mom had to step in.
For some reason DH always agrees with my mom when she disciplines SS but always makes excuses for SS if I try to discipline him.
My mom is going to go with SS to the animal shelter to volunteer to make sure he does what he is told byt he supervisors.