Let me put it to you straight. BM seems to think that when her part on a medical bill is due she can reimburse us when she feels like it. Well, DH and I are just plain tired of her thinking we owe her the benefit of a payment plan. I sent her and email and it goes like this......
You were sent the bills for SD Dr. visit. We have allowed you plenty of time to repay us your part, more time than the court order states. We realize that money is tight, but it is for everyone. This excuse is no longer acceptable. We have continually had to remind you to pay your part each time the kids were taken to the Dr and have allowed you to pay as you were able. This will not continue. We will forward Dr. bills one time only. Therefore in the future if we are not reimbursed the entire balance within the 30 day period allowed per court order we will be forwarding the bills to the Attorney General and they will handle it. If the balance for the previous bill is not paid in full on Monday, Aug. 25 it will be sent to the Attorney Generals office. Since you prefer to pay with a money order, you should go ahead and do that. That way we both have documentation other than a written piece of paper. If we are not at home on Monday we will more than likely be at football practice. It would probably be wise to call beforehand since we are always running with the kids here and there.

She sends one back....I am aware that I still owe for SD Dr. bill. I have been doing what I can. I pay child support every week, and still had to purchase school supplies so yes, that did drain me a little. I do have another child that needs things too, I do not get any help from anyone for her. I am doing the best that I can. I will have a money order for the balance to you on Monday.
I realize that you do not like me and your going to do whatever, but for what it's worth I do appreciate the extra time you have given me to pay and again appreciate everything you do for my kids!
DH sends her an email that says it's not about personal feelings it's business.
So I call her and ask why she is pointing the finger at me when DH feels the same way. She tells me basically since I have been around DH has changed.(doesn't allow her to manipulate him) Whaa, Whaa, Whaa!!! Always the victim. Why do these women think when the shoe is on the other foot, our DHs have to play nice? She didn't when she had the kids. And also what does her having another kid have to do with the obligation to the 2 we have???