She wears Target-brand flip flops...at least that's what BM was wearing the last time I saw her.

BM went back to the BF who beat her up.

SD11 called her dad last Thursday and begged him to come pick her up. They had gone over to the BF's house and SD absolutely did not want to be there. So DH did. BM actually let him.

Then BM called our house and I couldn't help myself. I answered just to tell her thank you for letting DH pick SD11 up. She cried as she told me on the phone that no matter how hard she tries, she doesn't know how to hate me. I am so great to the girls and am so understanding of her...even when she's being a bad mom. I simply told her that she isn't a bad mom...just not making the 'best' decisions. I then proceeded to preach to her about compromising with the girls when reintroducing the man that beat her up back into their lives. I talked of counseling and all that jazz. Blah Blah Blah...

The next day DH took her to lunch to discuss all sorts of issues. BM started out by telling my husband that she wishes things would have worked out between them....she should have never listened to everyone around her telling her to leave him. She feels like that is what happening now with this BF.

DH replies..."But BM, all those people were right about us. I didn't love you like I should love my wife..."

:jawdrop:

He then told her that he spoke to his lawyer and that if he ever feels that his daughters are not being a priority, he will reinstate the Restraining Order keeping the BF away from the girls (she dropped the PRO, protecting her AND the girls). He also handed over another copy of receipts and the total amount that BM still owes us. He stated that in the same way he is obligated by the courts to pay child support she is obligated to reimburse the money he's paid for medical expenses. It's time she started paying up. The bills date back to January. He then reminded her that child support will be dropping in two weeks and to be prepared.

DH said she cried the whole time.

I think for the first time ever he didn't feel sorry for her. I think that he is finally letting go of the need to take care of her...he's been doing it for over 15 years and it's engrained in him to do so.

He stated the facts and his needs and will let her do with it what she wants. No screaming match. No accusations of her ability of being a good mother. They both know her mediocrity in that department. It's no longer her best kept secret.