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bellacita's picture

i was wondering if anyone knew where to find or what the post was called that talked about if it takes 2 people to make a baby, but one does it w/o the others consent or behind his back, shouldnt the BM take responsibility and absolve BF of said obligation? i cant remember the exact verbiage, but i think it even went on to say that men should carry little waiver cards in their wallets and have the ladies sign b4 having sex!! it was an interesting and funny post and i was looking for it again and couldnt find it....can anyone help?

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ColorMeGone2's picture

WHY?

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

bellacita's picture

thank u! that post was so well said...i so agree!

Sita Tara's picture

Men stop thinking if anyone mentions the possibility of sex. I have often wanted to write a book about choices men make and totally trusting women when they shouldn't.

It's called

Wear A Condom Stupid

Sure they break. But how many times does that happen compared to her saying "Sure...I'm on the pill...it's all cool..."

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

Colorado Girl's picture

is, "the doctor said I can't have kids...."

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

Sita Tara's picture

It 's a Miracle! Divine Intervention/Immaculate Conception!!!!

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

Colorado Girl's picture

and miracles.... Wink

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

Sasha's picture

Several years ago I dated a guy who was married twice, had two kids from the first marriage, painted his second ex as the wicked witch and said that she took advantage of him when he was drunk. According to him, she said she couldn't have kids, so THREE kids later, including a set of twin boys...

Now this guy was a story. His first wife had an affair with his brother and she ended up marrying him. He always told me how nasty she was but when I met her, not only was she very nice but she and I looked like we could be sisters! At least I know why he liked me.

Looking back, he was definitely one of those "what was I thinking" moments.

SerendipitySM's picture

My fiancee knocked up his EX on their 2nd date - they were married less than 3 months later because he wanted to do the right thing by his child. Wear a condom stupid is right!!!!!

sarahbernheart's picture

My FH ex was getting ready to go into the army they had sex that night and when she had her physical lo' and behold she was pregnant, so they were pressured into marriage ( 18 y/o)
duh' pull out method doesnt work!!!
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

SerendipitySM's picture

It still blows my mind when I think of it - imagine meeting someone new and them marrying them 3 months later? Alcohol makes us do incredibly stupid things...lol

SerendipitySM's picture

It still blows my mind when I think of it - imagine meeting someone new and then marrying them 3 months later? Alcohol makes us do incredibly stupid things...lol

SerendipitySM's picture

It still blows my mind when I think of it - imagine meeting someone new and them marrying them 3 months later? Alcohol makes us do incredibly stupid things...lol

BabygotBack1988's picture

i coundt have kids
turns out i can get pregnant but will be really hard to carry full term not meaning to sound rude but it was lucky for me a cant carry full i was 17 with no job no where to live and still a ababy myself

life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you ) Blum 3

BabygotBack1988's picture

i was not stupid enought to not be on the pill i was im very unlucky !!!

life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you ) Blum 3

bellacita's picture

i completely agree that men shouldnt be so naive or stupid to not use protection and just trust the women they are w. THAT SAID, going back to Georgia's post, i just dont think its fair that a woman can deceive, manipulate and lie to conceive a child and then the men have to pay out the financial wazoo for the next 18 yrs and then in some cases, cant afford to have the family they really want. like she said, if the woman chose to terminate despite the mans wishes, he coudlnt do a thing about it, so why such the double standard?

BabygotBack1988's picture

but what if the womandidnt have the heart to terminate and it really was an accident i dont think those ones should be left without help

life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you ) Blum 3

ColorMeGone2's picture

If we expect the man to suck it up, then we have to expect the woman to suck it up, too. She can choose to be it's mother, if she wants, but he should also get to choose to not be it's father, if that's what he wants. If it's unplanned and you want to keep it, then you foot the bill.

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

bellacita's picture

and i guess thats why the laws are what they are. no court can really know the truth and decide how it should be dealt w...its the women who do it on purpose who should ease up on the guys and not start w the malicious mother syndrome, PAS, constant court battles, harrassment, etc.

BabygotBack1988's picture

but we all know they will its very frustrating

life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you ) Blum 3

bellacita's picture

despite the situation, these men try really hard, as least mine does, to be a good dad, had offered support and wanted time from day one and instead of being happy shes got such a great dad for her kid she just shits on him and his happiness. then she says she loves SD more than anything. bull. unbelievable.