BM is crazy and I can't stand it!
So BM recently was texting BF and told him that he screwed up his chance to live his dream life with her. Yes he ruined his chance to get the opportunity to spend his life with a woman neither he nor family can stand. He ruined a relationship that was doomed for the beginning since they couldn't go a minute without fighting. He ruined a chance to be with someone he never really loved. He ruined a chance to be with a woman he accidentally got pregnant and had to question if the child was his. Yep he ruined his own fairy tale. When is this woman going to wake up and realize that I am the one he wants to be with with? When is this woman going to finally understand that he could never have dreamed that he would meet someone as great as me because he was used to settling with woman like her. I am just so mad that I am with a man I truly love that loves me back and she is belittling that love. She is acting as if she was the one he couldn't live without. I know it is childish but I hate having someone question the validity of my relationship. I hate being called number two when she was never number one. They were never married, they never shared a life together. Why does she have to be jealous that I am the one doing that with him. I mean she hates him as much as he hates her. This was a typical case of two people who never should have been together. Why can't she see that? I hate having to live with her saying this stuff it makes me want to vomit! She even went as far to say that SD is better than any child of mine will be. This is the woman who supposedly wants to be my friend. Yeah right! All I want her to do is leave BF and me alone so that we can start our life. I want her in SD's life but not mine, especially if she is saying things like this. I would say this is easily the worst part of being a step parent in my mind.
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She is a fruitcake
Sounds like you have the same problem as me! She tricked him in to getting pregnant and after 15 years, of 1) Never being married, 2) him never getting back with her 3) she has never had another b/f and 4) Asks people in her church to continue to pray for "them" that he will stop this foolishness and see the error of his ways and make a family with her. She is a FRUITCAKE. I feel the same as you I want her to just leave me and my FH alone. Unfortunatley I know they have to talk about SD15 once in awhile and I just have to grit my teeth and bare it. My FH had a talk with her and told her straight out that he only talks to her because she is the mother of his child and they are not friends. He told her unless there is an emergency don't call me. Now if she calls (which fortunately is less and less now since he set up major boundaries) a lot less then before. He let's all calls go to VM and decides whether it is important enough to call back. I don't know how old your SD is but it sounds like your FH needs to have a talk with her and let her know she needs to move on with her life but be prepared because I have seen on a lot of these posts that these BMs start s/holding visitation, phone calls, etc. Fortunately in my case my SD is old enough to have her own cell and talk to her dad whenever she wants but BM still wants to be in the middle of everything. I just wrote a post about how BM feels she is entitled to everything - I wish women like this would just drop off the face of the earth!!!! GOOD LUCK AND HAVE THAT TALK WITH YOUR FH, have him change his cell, give out the home # only, or have her communicate by email because if the doesn't put a stop to this now it is only going to get worse!
we're all in the same boat
same situation here...trick pregnancy, psychotic BM who will stop at nothing to ruin our lives. i dont know what to say, i cant deal w it and i have no advice to give. just wanted to say i understand and im here rite w ya gals