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Submitted by southernshellgirl on Mon, 09/24/2007 - 12:23pm

Just had to share. I was on the phone with my mom the other night and she told me how my stress and heatache for SD reminds her so much of a story in the Bible, Kings 3:16 in the NKJV.
I got out my Bible and cried when I read the story of the two women fighting over the baby and the king said, "Divide the living child in two, and give half to one, and half to the other." Then the true mother begged the king to give the baby to the other woman rather than kill him. The other woman told the king to cut him in half and the king knew the true mother was the one that would rather give up the child to the monster woman than see him cut in half.
If only all judges had the God-given wisdom of Soloman.
How many of us have felt we had to concede to the monster BM because we would rather let her win than do anything that may cause the child to be torn or "cut in two"?
How many of the selfish BMs would rather see their child divided than accept them loving another woman?
My mom is always telling me to remember that God knows how much I care for SD and she is being protected when I am not able to be with her. I hope all of you can take some comfort in the the same thoughts about your kids too.

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Submitted by Candice on Mon, 09/24/2007 - 1:35pm

I'm not religious, so without you sharing that scripture, I would have never known. And you know what? It's so true. There are so many times we let bm win, b/c fighting for what is right was worse on ss, than to just let the woman be selfish. It's so sad that the most ignorant, selfish woman are the ones to breed the fastest, and the most. So sad...

Thanks,
Candice

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Submitted by Colorado Girl on Mon, 09/24/2007 - 1:52pm

My mom has been my saving grace during all of this many, many times. It is just so hard being the bigger person ALL the time. I think 90% of us here have conceded not to further damage these poor kids or ourselves. I have to give my BM that, she always has a fight left in her and never is willing to back down. My question is when does it end? My BM will NEVER be happy, no matter how much we concede, she always wants more. Whatever she lacks whether it's quality time with the girls to make herself feel better(she only wants them more when she's lonely and no boyfriend) or money, we're expected to compensate. Doesn't matter that all the bickering and going to court is only benefiting one person - her. The sad part is that this society/court system seems to enable them to act this way, and rewards them. They get their cake and they get to eat it too.

I truly belive that it will all come full circle. It's inevitable. BMs can't change who they are and can't change the things they've done. So they will have to answer for that. Whether it's in this life or the next.

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Submitted by Chocoholic on Wed, 09/26/2007 - 8:31am

"How many selfish BMs would rather see their child divided than accept then loving another woman?"

The bm in our life even went as far as to BEAT her own 2 year old child and try to frame it on me/us rather than accept her child loving another woman. Now custody is up in the air and I hope to God that the judge sees bm for what she is....
I've seen so many of these jealous women take things to a ridiclous level because they can't accept 'their' children loving another woman... It is very sad, and it only hurts the children....