I want to pull my hair out!
Ok, so these past few days have been even worse. My SS has found a better way to push my buttons. I ask him nicely to stop doing something and now all he does is laugh! Then following the response is NO! I had him at my work today because my boss is kind enough to have a kids room for the summer. Trying to save money I volunteered to have him come up there and play with the other kids. I asked him to stay in there and play and all he did was run a muck! So I got fed up with him and called the babysitter. I literally had to drag him out of my building and he yelled and consistantly said he was not going with me. He held on to the door of the building and held so tight I had to pry him from them. I literally dragged him all the way to the elevator where he would not let me get on to push my floor. I am standing here asking him to stop and it was like i was telling him to keep doing it i like it. I finally struggled enough to get him in the car and what does that kid do, unlocks the other door on the other side and gets out and starts running around the car. I get him in the car finally after all that craziness and he starts kicking the seats and yelling and screaming. I had to pick up my fiance from work in order for my SS to finally SHUT UP! He doesn't play those games in front of him. When we dropped him off at the sitters house I got to vent on my way back to work. I sit here and wonder is all this worth it. I lose either way. If I leave the one I love I will be miserable and nothing will get fixed. My heart hurts and I am having a breakdown of all sorts! HELP ME SOMEONE!
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How old is this child?
Did your SO say anything to him about his behavior? You deserve respect as an adult in charge of the care of this child, your SO needs to back you up here honey.
~Evil
Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
Confucius
Oh My,
This kid needs a major ass reaming. I know you can't touch him, and even if you don't the kid could still lie and say you did.
Here's my take. You sit this kid down with your BF. You lay down some laws. If they are not abided by x,y & z will happen. Feel free to scream an inch away from his face.
Picturing in my head that scene at work today, made me sick to my stomache.
I'm so sorry for you. Hugs. Jo
BM's
Well I know where this SS gets his stubborness from: BM! Thats all she is good for is causing problems. If she would have been a good mother from the beginning she would have custody of her child and I would not be having this problem! Much love to all those SMommys that fight for their right!!!!
I'm afraid I would have
I'm afraid I would have taken the time to stop by home, take him inside and beat his ass good. Especially since your BF has given you permission to do so. If he told BM it is your word against SS. Sounds like nothing is going to work with this child except that. I can't imagine what you went through. How does he behave with the babysitter?
I agree with Little Jo you both need to sit him down and tell him if he misbehaves like that again..he needs to be told the consequences, and you both need to stick to it. Start taking away things, if he has possesions that are important. Dr. Phil says strip their room of everything except for a mattress on the floor and start from there.
Good Luck!
I'd have beaten his little ass.
Actually, I probably would've been second in line, because I know my DH would've gotten there first. I don't do tantrums and neither does he. But you can't threaten a spanking if the kid knows no spanking will come. Usually, it only takes a few times, then you can threaten and they will believe you'll really do it. I think I'd have to try it. I know this is a controversial issue, but I think there's a difference between abusing a child and giving a child a good spanking for discipline purposes. It's an attention-grabber and sometimes, when they are out of control, it's a quick way to get their attention and change their behavior. I also think the problem with disrespectful kids these days is a direct result in the so-called "experts" telling parents that spanking equals abuse. Please. A little fear is a healthy thing... fear is what teaches us not to walk out into traffic, not to play with matches, not to stick a fork in an electrical outlet, not to screw off at work, not to mistreat others, etc. Fear used to be what taught children not to disobey their parents, but to treat their parents with respect. Not so much anymore.
~ Anne ~
"Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other." -Walter Elliot
OMG.......
I feel for you I have went through the same thing with my BS6 it is no fun. It took me and the principle from his school to get him to my car the one day I was picking him up early and he wanted to ride the bus. I no longer spank because of CPS coming to my house we now take things away and I mean away like taking his favorite toy an putting it up in the closet for a week or so or until he can behave.
Anyway GOOD LUCK and you are not alone!
Live for today,you may not have a tommorow
Agree ...
I agree with most of the women here - spank his booty! We don't have too much of a problem with temper tantrums. I swatted SS booty once at the beach when he started his tantrum - that nipped it in the bud. Another time DH had to spank SS twice because the tantrum was so outragous you would have thought he was a psychotic child. But now all we have to do is tell him to watch his behavior or he'll get a spanking. He very politely says, "no thank you." Which, of course, just melts your heart.
~ Katrina