Hmm, what could this be about?
This evening when we got home, there was a card stuck in our door. It was from Child Protective Services, and had a note on the back to please call them on their cell. I wonder what this is all about? Do you think BM sent CPS out to our home? We called and left the agent a message but she hasn't called back yet.
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up to no good
That woman needs to eat a .38
Keep us posted - Jo
Or a Pie
think positive
Maybe they were following up on something or at the wrong house> I am trying to be positive. Keep us posted on what they needed
Live for today,you may not have a tommorow
RE:
Well, the note on the back of the card said "Mr. BF" on it. I asked BF if maybe they were following up on something, and he said that the only contact they were supposed to have with him was the follow-up letter they sent him a few weeks ago when they told us they wouldn't be investigating BM because he was just a bitter ex husband in the middle of a custody battle.
I'm trying to think positive but it's hard when I just can't figure out why else they'd be here except because of BM up to no good.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
I understand
we were investagated a couple months ago it was very scarey and still is. My thoughts and prayers will be with you until you get the matter resolved.
Live for today,you may not have a tommorow
I need to got to bed!
When I read what you said that the card said I wondered how did CPS know the term BF and that BM must have found you on this site. It took me a few minutes to realize that Mr B.F meant your DH name......DER...DOH!!!! I am going to bed....night night LOL!
Maybe...
Maybe they decided to investigate Bm after all and need more info. I'll hope for that!
Dawn
I Don't Want to Scare You
But a card was left at our door as well and it was because BM emailed a bunch of crap from another country. Even if it is CPS just let them come in and interview you. Be honest about everything. Try not to be too overly upset but let them know point blank that is is in retribution for the RO. Show the documentation.
Every state may be different and hopefully this is not the case and they are finally getting around to investigating your claim. Keep us posted! We are with you all of the way.
RE:
We've been very nice so far and plan on continuing to be. BF left the lady a message and said that he found her card in his door and requested that she call back to let him know what he could do for her. He was very polite.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
I am sure you are nice
It is hard not to be upset when BM pulls this crap. Especially when SHE is the aggressor. I was soooooo angry but I tried my best to contain it. Why do they do these things????? It only hurts the kids!
Arrrrgh, can't even catch a break
Nymh, I really feel for you coz you ain't even being allowed some breathing space. Its one thing after another. I am also hoping its a follow-up from previous CPS encounter. If CPS wants to come and talk to you, let them, lay it out as it is and hopefully they should be able to see its all about BM trying to get back at you guys. Last year, we found a note from CPS on our porch with some very ridiculous claims, we called them back, they came to our house and when we told them what was going on, they said they have seen a lot of such cases, vengeful parents calling CPS on other parent. They did their usual investigation, everything was ok and case was closed. So chill out, good luck and keep us posted.
It'll be fine, Nymh.
Try, try, try to schedule it so that SS is with YOU GUYS when CPS comes to visit, that way they can talk to him and, hopefully, get real insight into what's happening at his mother's house. You have nothing to hide and therefore nothing to fear. This could actually be a good thing! This could actually be evidence of BM using a third party to continue her campaign of harassment.
~ Anne ~
"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission."
-Eleanor Roosevelt
We came home to one once. BM
We came home to one once. BM had made up some allegations of abuse in our home. One 15 min. visit later and we received a letter saying the allegations were unfounded. Hopefully, they did decide to investigate BM in your case. But if BM did make up some stories, just remember she's the one that is nuts and you have nothing to hide.
Luckily
We have SS this weekend as well, so hopefully we'll be able to get the CPS worker out there this weekend to witness how happy he is in our home. Maybe if we're really lucky, BM will call while the CPS worker is there and they'll be able to see how upset she makes him and how she interrogates him when he's with us and calls every 20 minutes.
Hopefully it'll only be a follow-up visit, but if they are coming to investigate us I'd love to be able to say "We're great, but maybe you should go take a peek at BM's house..."
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Oh geez Nymh, That sucks. my
Oh geez Nymh,
That sucks. my hopes and prayers are wit you that is ends up being nothing major. Keep holding your head up girl. I thinka pie is definately in order.
Georgie
According to SS
BM took him to a CPS worker in the 2 days that she had him between visits with us. They questioned him on all the usual stuff, with her sitting right there with him. He said that most of the questions he just said he didn't know the answer to because he was afraid to get in trouble with his mom.
I think that this will be a follow-up and possibly a questioning session in our home. BF had a good, long talk with SS about how the hardest thing about being a man is telling the truth, and the second hardest thing is talking about his feelings. He encouraged SS to tell these people exactly how he really felt because they're trying to help him, and even offered to let him talk to them without BF in the room so that he wouldn't be afraid. He reassured him that there was nothing he could ever say to make BF not love him.
I really hope they come out here for a questioning. I think it would do more help for SS than anything. Everyone that we've gotten to listen to us, especially if they've also seen and heard BM herself, has instantly been on our side. I hope that we can get someone out here and show them how SS interacts with us, how much he enjoys himself, and hopefully how upset BM makes him and how she interrogates and harrasses him while he's here.
*crosses fingers*
Thanks for all of your kind words and encouragement, everyone!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Hang in there
Hi Nymh and for anyone else going through this...
I am a lawyer as well as a SM. This stuff happens ALL the time. The only good thing is counselling, help and support for the kids, who unfortunately get the worst of it. Hang in there. Oh and kudos for your BF for sitting down with his SS and saying all that. Not sure that my husband would do that even when he has good intentions.
Karen
What cps looks for is a
What cps looks for is a clean house, it doesn't have to be spotless. Make sure that there is fresh milk and bread, try to have some kind of fresh fruit and vegetables. If ss is there it helps if he feels comfortable enough to go get himself something to eat or drink while the worker is there. You can always request a child advocate to be there when they talk to your ss. I worked as a cps/child advocate for several years. It is scary but don't be nervous I'm sure it isn't anything serious. If it was they would have contacted you immediately.