Hi my name is Lilly and I have been married for 5 years and have a son from a previos marriage. My husband also has a son from previous marriage. This is the situation, his son is 8 and is the kind of kid who cries for everything, even when we tell him to pick his clothes from the bathroom. That has been very anoying for 5 years and more so, because my son is 11 a I,ve teach my son to be a little and dont cry and whe he sees that my husband pick his 8 year old son, takes a bath with him, clean his behind when he is done in the bathroom and feeds him, my son thinks and that I am being unfair with him. I've spoken to my husband about it and all he says is that every thing he does with his son bothers me. But the worst part, is that for example, right now I am pregnant I have my son, his son and our baby with me all the time. When I tell him that he should talk to his mother and keep him one weeken and he stays with us the other weekend he says that his sons bothers me. He lives with mother, but not really because he is with us EVERY WEEKEND, every holiday, every birthday, every mothers day, the whole two months of vacations, and when I talk to him the only thing he says is that I dont love his son. The clothe that he wears I buy it, we provide tranportation for school every day, we are his baby sitter(well me) and besides that he gives her money every week. She should be paying me for taking care of him. She has another daughter by a previous marriage and the girl lives with her father in N.J we live in Boston. She sees her once a year. So you could see that she dont care. Every thing I do for my kids I do for him too. and is like the boy is ok when you buy him stuff and toys but when I say, dont do this or dont do that, then he acts like if I treat him bad. I can't let him get away with every little thing he does, when I have two other boys at home. I do every thing for my kids, why cant she do the same. I dont make my husban do anything for my son. Just so he could gat the message that is how a mother should be. All I asking for is free time at least from him, and my husband dont understand that what I trying to say is that he should tell his mother to be responsible and try to be with her son more often, spend time with him. The only x-mas she spent with him was this last one because the boy wanted to be with her and we had to call her, because she does not even call. every time school starts she calls to say that he doesnt have clothes (she cant even do that) and I have to go and buy it. Every thing I do with my kids I have to do for him to, not because my husband ask me to but because I feel like I have to just so the boy wont feel left out. I dont think I a bad woman, I dont treat him bad, I dont beat him up, but I feel like Shit whenever I talk to my husband and the only thing he says is that his son bothers me. Last night was my last try, we argue because he just wont take it. I am not jealous of her is just that she gets everything to easy and my piece of shit husband lets her get away with it. I NEED HELP. Maybe i am wrong and I dont know how to deal with the situation. PLEASE HELP ME!!! I want to leave my husband just because he wont tell her to keep him every other weekend and be a fit mother. I am tire of this situation. Well the kids have off this week from school, and I ask him if he'd talk to her, and she told him that he has no other choice but to stay with him. I toldhim "I will talk to her then" and he said that, it was none of my bussines :'0...