We obtained a copy of the emergency card and have sat and waited for fiancee to show up to transport SD from daycare. No luck. I did the next best thing: I photographed him driving, called his parole officer, and now he's sitting in jail on a parole violation! Unfortunately, he will get out soon (California's prison's are too overcrowded to care about parole violations). BM is very suspicious and very astute to her surroundings. She would notice me conducting surveillance and would file a report that I'm stalking her/her fiancee--which I definitely don't want. My SD is a fabulous kid whom I love very much and vice versa. Short of staking (stalking) out her place or daycare, would the fact that he's a convicted felon that's been witnessed by myself AND his parole agent driving around with no CDL/insurance be enough to warrant a custody modification?

With DH having parenting time of 30%. We have a letter drafted to BM about not allowing her boy toy to transport SD, but are waiting to send it until after our hearing on Thursday (motion to terminate spousal support and modify child support based on DH having more parenting time), as she doesn't know that we're aware of boy toy's criminal record :jawdrop: We will also be notifying SD's daycare, in writing, not to allow boy toy to pick up SD, under any circumstances. When I first discovered the criminal record, I personally visited our local CPS office to find out how to protect SD. They said that if we actually witness him driving SD anywhere to call 911 and report erratic driver, so we can have a paper trail. Short of that, we're out of luck. CPS won't do anything until someone is actually hurt or killed :-O

Interesting about the 3/4 house! How did you find out that he's a recovering alcoholic? Do you know what 3/4 house he's living at? When my SD proudly announced that BM was get married, she told me what BM's new last name was going to be. Then, when I asked where boy toy was from, she told me that he was living close to their house with his grandmother. That was a huge red flag for me, as most responsible adults don't live with mommy or grandmother (unless they're paying so much in support they can't afford their own place ;-). Let me know if/how I can help.

Lana

BM's ex-con boyfriend(or should I just say "con"?) is back in the pen! Unfortunately, that's given her extra time to harass us. She's filed a complaint with the feds, claiming that we did a change of address on the boyfriend, which resulted in his being jailed. We did NOT do a change of address. It seems his parole agent had a confidential informant that helped him out